As someone who always replies, I feel sad when I don't get a reply from that person
When they're happy about something, I try to match their happiness/excitement. But when I'm excited bout something, they just seen my messages. I wish I wasn't this empathetic :|
@hopefulencounter
That can definitely feel upsetting, it makes the relationship feel one-sided. I am sorry you are feeling like this.
@Remina yeah 😓, I start questioning why they reacted less. thank you for hearing me :")
@hopefulencounter
You are welcome. This is understandable. How do you feel about telling them what you are feeling? Sometimes people don't realize they are making someone feel unconsidered.
@Remina i think they won't care and i'm afraid it will just get more awkward 🫣
@hopefulencounter
That is hard for a friendship. if you feel this way, what is the benefit you get from being their friend?
@Remina
I feel same way in my relationship
I try making him happy but no one cares about my happiness
@neonKiwi8070
A one sided relationship is taxing and not longlasting
@Remina yes at first it didnt feel like this way, now i feel like maybe he's just there for me when he's bored 😅.. hm i don't know what benefit, i think maybe it's just "shared laughter" becausee sometimes we shared memes about our favorite anime
@hopefulencounter
I see. It sounds like he only wants you when he's bored but he's not there when you need him. He does not seem like much of a friend, really.
Sorry you feel that way sometimes :(
If I may ask, why do think it's related to being (highly?) empathic?
@dawningCat :") thank you
because i feel little things so deeply like i got sad easily
Hmm yeah. It can be hard to deal with that.
I feel you, it can suck being the one who cares more. Makes us feel naive and wish we were less emotional and could detach as easily as them.
@skob11
You're not naive, you're a good person.
@bindugirl
Exactly
But being a good person they tend to take you for granted
I'm experiencing same
@neonKiwi8070
Yes, well, it's within your power to just do good and let it go. If you feel taken for granted that is time to set up a boundary and back off if you can otherwise we can get burnt out. And not everyone has the depth of feeling good people or empaths have.
@bindugirl which is why i'm stepping away from a lot of people now, i need time to be with myself and i don't want to give my energy for a connection that upset me
@skob11 yeah this, i wonder how can they detach so easily 😔
@hopefulencounter
I hear you, don't set yourself up for disappointment by hoping or longing someone will do what you do. I am empathetic too. I feel what you are saying and have been there with family mostly. Just give yourself credit for being a good person because you are.
@bindugirl thank you for hearing my story and telling that i'm a good person, this means so much to me 🥹💖
back then i was such a people pleaser, but lately i've been backing away from people who i feel can drain me and my mental health, i'm now way more quiet 😭
@hopefulencounter
There are 2 old books you may wish to look at if you like to read. "Too Good For Her Own Good" doesn't matter if ur a girl or guy just good advice and "Codependent No More". They helped me initially on my growth journey a long time ago.
@bindugirl thank you for letting me know, i wrote your advice on my note 📝✨
@hopefulencounter
I concur, it hurts. Main reason I consider myself socially awkward 🙁
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@RunningMachine 😓 why they be like that to us thoughh..?
@hopefulencounter
Come on, cheer on man.
There are 8 billion people on these planet not all that bad.
@organticUnicorn9398 :') thanks for reminding me
