Confused.

Yesterday, I had a conversation with my father about misogyny, gender roles, and so on. My father told my brother to carry one of my bags, although I'd told him that I was perfectly capable in the past. For context, I am feminine presenting. While I don't mind receiving help from time to time in situations where I know I will most likely drop something, for the most part I personally like to do things independently and carry my own things unless I ask for help. While this isn't true for everyone, this is what I feel personally. My father and I began to talk and he prompted that I felt this way, as I felt it propagated gender roles. I nodded my head somewhat and began to correct him to say that rather I felt is was a bit rooted in gender roles, and not necessarily that it propagated them, however he interrupted me before I could finish. We began to talk more, and I expressed how I felt that these gestures were rooted in misogyny, however only in terms of prejudice and stereotypes against women. He became appalled that I had implied the were and began to say how dare I classify, or even associate him with misogyny, or as a misogynist. I corrected him and said that I did not call him a misogynist, nor was I trying to imply that he is one, as I feel that he is not, Rather, I expressed that I felt he might do things, such as try to have my brother carry one of my bags, or even simply open the door for me, though I'm not a fan of it, simply because of stereotypes and prejudice that implied women as weaker than, or in other words, misogyny. He defended himself and said that no, these gestures were not, and are not rooted in misogyny. Rather, he expressed that they were rooted in respect, and pointed out that within African culture, many things were often done to show women respect. Granted, I do feel that I could've worded my words better, as I do not feel that these things are entirely rooted in misogyny, however, depending on the situation, I do feel that they can be. My father then expressed that if I felt these things were rooted in misogyny, or if that I felt belittled by them, I should self reflect. I expressed that I did not feel belittled, but that I simply felt that these gestures were rooted in misogyny. Not that they are inherently misogynistic, as I do feel that they can be used as a tool of respect, however considering the way society has frequently treated women, or simply those who are feminine presenting, I felt that it might be rooted in it somewhat. He also expressed that I have never experienced misogyny before (though I beg to differ). After our conversation, before leaving from our mother's house (my parents are separated), my father told me to think of my life so far, and to come up with examples of instances where things that he has done could be classified as misogynistic (I can recall many). After he left, I admit, I did cry, as I felt confused and a bit shaken from our conversation. I still do feel that, depending on the situation, these kinds of gestures can, at times, be considered misogynistic. However, I still do feel a bit confused. That's why I have posted my story here, as I would like to have a second opinion.