If you are not all hearts and rainbows and positive thinking, what works for you?
Alot of people often find positivity unhelpful in certain situations, or they don't like being told, I'll give you a virtual hug, they like more direct advice or support. What helps you to feel better in a stressful situation, positivity or realness?
realness. i know people mean well with the positivity, but i still find it a little distasteful for me. it feels fake.
@Z0MBiEBYTES it does help to have someone admit that yeah, things suck 😬
A supportive figure and words of encouragement helps me feel better. A lot of the times we get stuck in the old negative thinking patterns. In such situations, just a word of encouragement or a supportive presence helps calm the stress.
I think for me it's having a big time out so I can think about things rationally. I don't want platitudes of there there it will get better soon or others have it worse.
I want to dwell a bit and be overwhelmed but then ponder it all and say one thing at a time.
It's hard to get support and even if I do, it's low quality so supporting myself is more natural. I might take a break, listen to music and then make a plan and it doesn't seem so vast anymore.
