It takes Reflection and Action: Ways to improve Optimism.

It takes so much more than saying “Be Positive” for someone to feel good about themselves, whether it be their academic skills, social skills etc.

We all have our insecurities.

It’s just that some are better at accepting them than others and can see the light in a mainly negative situation.

Reflect and ask yourself:

1. What has optimism helped you do?

2. Which situations make you feel less optimistic and was there ever a time where you encouraged someone with something you do not encourage yourself with?

3. What events, feelings and consequences have I gone through and how can I counteract that in an optimistic way? Ellis's ABC technique confirms that our consequences are a result of the situation event we are exposed to which creates an emotional or behavioral reaction.

Let’s take a look at an example:

• A - Activating event (e.g. You have an argument with a friend). We all have our triggers to facilitate an emotional reaction.

  
  

• B - Belief (e.g. Thoughts that are negative can come to mind such as “I will always be a terrible friend” “My friend never listens to me”). Do you see the absolutism in these thoughts? These thoughts are stubborn. Unwilling to be open. Too fixed. Where is the inclusivity?

  
  

• C - Consequences (e.g. An argument with a friend can lead to aggressive behavior, lack of self-esteem, confusion, detachment or clinginess in relationships).

  
  

  Here are some resources to challenge the lack of optimism:

  
  

  • Thought record worksheet - Be as honest as you can be with what goes through your mind emotionally with examples

  
  

  • Positive Psychology site is a great resource to help develop a more optimistic mindset too! Find more info HERE

    
    Negative to positive affirmations exercise. Think of 10 statements you have either used in the past or present when you were stressed, upset or angry and challenge yourself to make these statements less negative. Get yourself out of the mud.

    
    

    Let’s start the chain of thought:

    
    

    Negative affirmation “I will never get this job as there are always other interviewees that give a more confident person than me” CHANGE to Positive affirmation “I will give this interview my best shot - I have value and am more than capable of coming across well.”

    
    

    Is anyone open to showing us how they changed their negative affirmation to a positive one?

    
    

    Would love to hear from you all! <3

    
    

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