A very sad week
2 people passed unexpectedly within three days.. one was a patient from work, after transferring to another hospital's ICU, passed away that same night. The spouse must've been so devastated, and I wonder if they will sue us.. an elderly couple, husband went for surgery, transferred, and passed.. the thing was, this couple required an interpreter, they were waiting outside, asking nearly every hour the nurses of the husband's condition and was just being told he's fine but feeling a bit nauseous and had to stay longer..
Second person, is a colleague's mother-in-law.. she'll be taking three days off next week to attend the service in another city.. about 4-6hrs drive away.. this one, I'm not sure if it's unexpected or if she was already battling a sickness.. I haven't heard my colleague talk about it before.. was informed yesterday that we'll be short-staffed for 3 days because she won't be here.
I'm thinking it's because of these losses that subconsciously I'm grieving for these people and their families. Last night, I wasn't able to sleep that well, woke up every hour from 3am to my alarm at 6:15am and I slept around 12:30am.
November and December are months that have a lot anniversaries to remember. Some people I know personally, others are people I admire (like celebrities/idols). It's going to be tough time for the rest of the year.
@Jaeteuk It sounds like you work in the medical field, I can't imagine how overwhelming working in the medical field must be at times. With so many people passing back to back it's easy to be affected by the sorrowful mood. Are there any activities you do that help you distract yourself and cheer yourself up? Anniversaries are something you could hopefully look forward to and distract yourself with during these times.
Yes, I work in the Operating Room.. it's already better at my hospital that we aren't trauma based, so patients passing is not as common here. Anniversaries I mentioned are ones where people have already passed, so not entirely a distraction to grief. These saddened feelings only linger on for about a day or two, so I just need to get past it and things will get better afterwards.
@Jaeteuk you have the hardest job on the planet. I can't imagine in what ways this line of work impacts your mental and physical health, my heart goes out to you ❤
On a personal note, thankyou, Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You are a hero. A very special hero, thank God for people like you ❤❤ tw) my spine is broken and I'm a double amputee, people like you saved my life. One nurse spent hours with me after I was rescued, she would tell me stories and all about her life. I had no identity, and she mentioned she always wished she had a daughter named lola. That's how I got my name lola😁
and everyone please please, our doctors and nurses work so hard, and have so much stress on their shoulders. They shouldn't have to be thinking about being sued. So please everyone think before you do.
@Jaeteuk
I'm not sure what part of the medical field you are in, but everyone in the medical field is a hero in my book. Thank you for all you do. I can only imagine the sadness you must feel when you lose patients no matter what your role is in their life. I have a similar job. I work in the veterinary field and it's so hard when we lose pets that we love. So I can empathize with you in a way.
I hope that your patient's spouse is allowing themselves to grieve. And I hope you allow yourself to grieve too. Just because it's a patient doesn't mean it's any less difficult to deal with.
Stay Strong.
As Always,
Kristy
Thank you for your kind words, Kristy. Pets are the same as patients and their families. We often address our pets as a family member, a brother, a sister, a daughter, or a son. The grief for both human and pet is the same. This past week at work was chaotic, another patient had an allergic reaction to a drug, almost lost him, luckily the Anesthesiologists from all the ORs went in to help. Another scary moment.
@Kristynsmama
