Forum based Event from Lucy2 and usefulsummer3139 General Support discussing Grief

Forum based Event from Lucy2 and usefulsummer3139 General Support discussing

Grief

When a close friend, loved one, child or pet dies, I must include those who have suffered miscarriage and termination too; it comes as a huge shock to our system, and that shock produces many symptoms. It’s our way of shielding ourselves at such a vulnerable time. Most will cry, scream, or shout, others may say nothing and keep it locked inside, both are natural, but keeping these emotions inside can often produce symptoms later on.

Feeling numb of emotions is also a common symptom, death is overwhelming and just too much to cope with. Naturally we’ll feel very sad and for some, prolonged sadness and depression may require some extra support, so if you do experience this, please refer to a Bereavement Counsellor or Therapist. 7cups have many Listeners https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/ and certainly,

Therapists who specialise in Grief https://www.7cups.com/therapists/search.php

Emotions cont:

It is not uncommon to feel anger towards the person who died asking yourself questions such as ‘Why have you left me alone’ ‘I hate you for doing this to me’. This occurs with close losses such as friends, family, partners, or pets, who have played an important role in our lives.

You’ll often feel tired and lack motivation to do anything, including simple things like showering, and certainly no thoughts of what you might do in the future. If this continues, please seek support.

We often experience guilt; perhaps harsh words were exchanged, or you feel you didn’t do something you should have or because they died and you’re alive!

These emotions will come and go, and you may find when you’re feeling more positive, they suddenly crop up from nowhere, it’s upsetting but it will lessen.

Finances can be a huge worry for many and trying to sort this out after a death can be horrendous. Some may not know where their next meal is coming from or if they will continue to have a roof over their heads, or employment, so grief has a huge impact on our lives. Help is available see links below.

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Support

Friends and colleagues can find it very difficult as they don’t know what to say, they haven’t the words, but that’s okay, a good friend will be pleased to just sit with you and say nothing unless you want too. Try and accept offers of help, shopping, cleaning and even child sitting, it all helps and it’s good to have others around, and if you have a pet, they are a blessing for you at this time.

It's after the funeral that it when it hits us! Everyone has disappeared and you’re feeling utter despair; now is the time you'll probably want to be alone to think about loved one and all that's happened. This period may well last sometime, just take your time and when and only when, you're ready, you may want to return to something familiar to you. Remember, take your time and don't be in a rush to change things, and never make important decisions at this time.

Distraction is honestly the best way of coping in my opinion, keeping your mind busy but allowing time to grieve is important. Volunteering is a great way to channel your grief; help others and you’ll feel the benefit, become a Listener on 7Cups, you won’t regret it!

Make a Memory Box, decorate it, fill it with photos, knick knacks, birthday cards, even jewellery etc that remind you of your loved. Keep it close, that helps, and allow yourself time initially each day when you can reflect.

Steps to grief

Shock

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance and hope

Processing grief

Support

https://www.7cups.com/forum/GeneralSupport_28/TheGriefLossForum_50/

https://www.7cups.com/forum/GeneralSupport_28/CopingMechanismsResourcesforGriefProcessingEmotions_257/

https://www.aftering.com/grief-support-usa/

Finances

https://sudden.org/corporate-partners/financial-help-following-a-sudden-bereavement/#:~:text=A%20bereavement%20support%20payment%20can,entitled%20to%20receive%20this%20payment.

https://www.gov.uk/browse/benefits/bereavement

Chat with us, lighten the load and enjoy our hugs game <3

There’s so much more to say so please join us @Lucy2 & @usefulsummer3139 Reply to this post and tell us about your grief if you wish or ask questions, we’d love to hear from you.

Say no more, hugs coming your way<3

As we all know, grief is hard to deal with. From @usefulsummer3139 experience, I know that being with someone and feeling loved helps us deal with grief. So, for this part of the post, here’s an activity:

If you need a hug, reply to this post saying so! You could tell us a happy memory of a lost loved one or even why you are experiencing grief. Remember: you don’t need to tell us a reason — you can say anything you are comfortable with.

Everyone else, reply to the people asking for hugs with a virtual hug and words of kindness. Let’s spread positivity amongst each other <3

Reply to our post for your HUG

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