my dad family are toxic people in my dad life
my dad family are toxic people in my dad life feel like dad mom never there for me or brother or dad never had relationship with my dad mom ever she pass away on June 3 2024 seven months after my dad pass away feel like karma came back to her I am not mean person feel like never had closer to my dad mom I did not consider her my grandma hope were ever she in up hope she know how much she hurt my family his sisters and brother were never part of are life's and that write about my dad in her obituaries and write about me and brother don't understand why that did not love us or care about us if will still here and still mad at them way treat us especially treating my dad he had big heart and good person and he in peace and we did want us not going to her funeral today because my dad want me stand way from them people and that still mad at us not invited them to my dad funeral 7 months ago and that never visit my dad grave and never going get over how treat him and hope my dad in peace now
@countrygirl9988
I am sorry for all your loss and pain.
How or why extended family acts sometimes is not understood because people hold grudges and assumes reasons. ... if your dad's mom was never there for anyone and treated your dad poorly .. you will now never have real answers... as whatever happened between the two is now gone with them.
was the family always estranged? If so maybe that is reason they never were there for your family. sometimes a person cuts off contact and if family respects that and does not try to contact that does not mean they never cared it means they did not now how to reach out without problems from long past issues and assumptions...
I know a family that did not support a sons life choices as he did crazy stuff as a very young man... Later he met someone settled down became a good father and steady/ stable what they said they always wanted ..yet they have NEVER met his family/ children ........ because both sides seem to not let go of a fight or issue that they most likely could not remember from 25 years ago.... sad really that people can not let go of things in the past and make amends.
What did you want them to do or be in your life ?
@toughTiger6481 thank went was younger want them be in my life seen got older don't need in my life i be 41 in June realize don't need that from them went my dad was here and don't need them in my life anymore that were there went my dad was sick that were there for me went need them seen she pass away want here said sorry for not be in my life and my brother life and want her tell my dad she sorry for hurt my dad and my dad not here no more so don't need his family in my life and crazy mention my dad and me and brother in her obtutuies that never care about us at all and that all got karma and that all can go to *** for all I care been hurt seen was 5 years old and hope one day run into them and will not be nice to these people at all
@countrygirl9988
I’m so sorry that you had to deal with toxic people in your life. Believe me I know what that’s like and it’s not good at all. My mom and stepdad are toxic people. In my experience the best thing you can do is keep your distance from them as much as possible and when you have your own place to live (if you currently don’t right now), then that’s the right time to cut toxic people out of your life bc no matter who they are, it will never benefit you having toxic people in your life..
@akunknown thanks glad they're not part of my life or my family life and my dad mom was toxic person in my life she gone now so we don't have deal with her anymore and my dad sibling are toxic that get their karma for treat my dad like crap all his life