💔 When Grief Gets Stuck: Understanding Complicated Grief
Grief doesn’t come with a schedule. There’s no “right” way to do it, and there’s definitely no finish line. But sometimes, grief can become complicated—and that can make healing feel confusing, isolating, or even impossible.
@Remina
Grief for me looked like emptiness.
Anger.
The worst was not having closure.
Thinking, what could have been different.
I learnt to not run from what I was feeling, as difficult as it is, you need to go through it, and feel it, to really heal, it doesn't go away, but you learn to live around it 💚
@Amanda84
Thank you for sharing. It reminds me of an image I once saw that showed how grief really looks. You expect grief to get smaller and how circle to look the same, but what really happens if grief remains the same size, but the circle grows bigger around it, making room for hope.
@Remina
That's a great graphic, explains and resonates completely with how I felt 💚
@Amanda84
I am glad to hear that!
@Remina
@stormieandpaws
Thank you for sharing that vulnerable piece of yourself with us. I can understand that it is hard to get recognition from some people for this grief. Like you said, loss is not always through death. I am heartbroken to hear of the abuse you faced and how you were separated from your children. You are right that grief does not end. We just learn to live with it and sometimes we have good days and sometimes we remember them, and it makes us sad. I am glad that you are here with us, Paws, and felt comfortable to share. 💙
@Remina
thank you yes grief come in many forms we had a lot of it in our life still do someone asked us if we grieve our parents when they die as dad just turned 84 and mom is 83yr we told them we all ready been grieving lost of our parents as we never had the parents we deserve loving ones that would keep their kids safe as they could we really not connected to them in many ways we was more as a kid connected to grandpa and a family down the road we spent a lot of time with as it was safe there they ones took us to church after parents stopped going when we was around 6yr
we have many good memories of time spent with that family
to share ones story to us it to let others know they not alone after abuse that they can have hope for a better life free of abuse too
@stormieandpaws
Hope for life after abuse is always inspiring. I can understand how you would not mourn the death of your biological parents when in your life they never served the role of mom and dad. It is understandable that you grieved the loss of safeness, that every child deserves to know. I am glad that you had your grandparent and that family. It sounds like they cared and you needed that in your life.
@Remina
yes the family down the road cared and was there for us took us to church on sunday and to awana on wed but also had 5 day club in summer at their home the parents were loving kind and thoughtful will never forget that family
@stormieandpaws
Those are such loving memories. I am glad that you are able to hold these good memories in your heart and I am glad that they were there for you.
