Course 2, Discussion 4: The problem is the path

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Three things in my circle of concern: other people's actions, other people's words, and other people's choices

Three things in my circle of control: my behaviors, my reactions, and my words

#1 choices for circle of control: Trust is the glue of life. Make a positive difference in relationships. 

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What stands out about about this executive is that he was proactive about the situation with his boss. He empathizes, understands, supports with his corporate peers. He provided recommendations to has boss as he gave his expected report. 

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✒️ Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Circle of Concern:                                                Circle of Influence:
1.) How others see my past & judge me for             1.) My faith
it                                                                        2.) My integrity & morals
2.) How my brother see me & what he might         3.) My work ethic
do next to negatively impact my life 
3.) My health & constantly worrying about
what will happen next              

One thing I can do to remind myself to focus on my circle of influence, is to be mindful of what thoughts are going through my head, and what feelings I am experiencing. Being mindful about my thoughts gives me a chance to correct myself on what I am focusing on, and redirect my thoughts back to my circle of influence.

✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

The executive was very proactive. Instead of getting frustrated and upset and talking about his boss with his other coworkers, he chose to work harder, figure out his bosses strengths and weaknesses, and find ways to complement his bosses strengths, and fill in for his weaknesses. When he chose to work like this, proactively, it helped to make the team work better and more efficiently. I absolutely loved this video and this entire lesson!!

I will respond to one of my peers after posting this discussion.

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Three things identified in my circle of concern:

1) Other people's actions

2) Other people's words

3) The past

Three things identified in my circle of influence:

1) My behavior

2) My reactions

3) My decisions 

One thing I can do to remind myself to focus on my circle of influence:

1) Be proactive, always treat people as if they are proactive. 

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In the 2nd video the leader didn't listen to his team and was too dictorial. One employee was proactive by listening to his peers, taking time to talk things through with them, empathize with them, and hear their recommendations. Then he complemented his leader's strengths and compensated for his weaknesses. 

Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

1. When I perceive people's intolerance and inability to compromise with one another.

2. Aspects my own health and abilities following injury

3. Racism

____

1.  Reminding myself of my own circle of influence and cultivating acceptance of what I can and can't control

2. Maintaining integrity when I do encounter instances of the above (racism and other forms of intolerance)

3. Doing what I can to improve my skills and abilities (injury)

✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

This executive accepted the circumstances and worked with them instead of against them.  He worked with the people around him, including his boss, to the true benefit of everyone.  He is an example of awareness of different styles of leadership and adapting in an effective manner. 

Listened, observed, perceived, supplied the skills that were "missing" to make a productive whole.  Not to mention that he worked hard and with dedication to do it.

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✒️ Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

-> 3 things in my circle of concern

•  How other people perceive me
• Nobody cares
• People are out there to get me

-> 3 things in my circle of influence

• There is no need to think about what other people think about me. My actions and efforts should matter to me.
• People do care and are ready to collaborate if they can get along.
• Things happen in life. Uncertainty is not always bad. 

and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence

• I can communicate efficiently and able to bring out the best with my right behavior. 

✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

• Read the room and did not complain without analyzing both sides.-that stands out to me about that executive.
• Proactive: Made a plan and with details, worked on solving the issue without blaming anyone's behavior. 
• reactive: It would have been reactive if they focused on the problem and not on finding out a way to bridge the gap. 
  
  

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✒️ Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Circle of concern

Other's feelings

Economy

Future

Circle of influence

Myself

Time management 

Thing's that makes me happy 

1 things to focus on circle of influence 

by being proactive within this circle, and largely ignoring anything outside of it. To put this another way, focus on the things you can influence, control, or change, rather than the things you have no say over.

✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

Reactive: Taking a decision without deeply thinking about it.

Proactive: Making a plan before action or taking preventive measures.

✒️ Identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Circle of concern:

1. Exams
2. What other thinks about me
3. Death

Circle of influence:

1. Academic performance and skill learning
2. Friendships
3. Time Management

Reminder:

1. Make a schedule

✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

Hes proactive and didn't criticize.

He covered the presidents weaknesses and focused on what he could influence.

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Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence. 

🌹Circle of Concern- Fear, Reaction/Response in all situations, Focusing on non-productive thoughts.

🌹Circle of Influence- Spirituality, Self-Compassion, Determination.

I will focus on my circle of influence by engaging in activities which will foster them. I will not remind myself because I dont believe in avoiding the circle of concern. And I dont agree with the video saying that we should avoid the circle of concern. My belief is that the more we avoid something, the greater chances that thing we are avoiding will occur. It is good to address and face our circle of concern for many reasons I will not delve in at the moment. 

Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

The executive in the video focused was proactive in that he focused on things he can change. He then took the initiative to change the things he can through focusing on his circle of influence. 

Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words! @theonlychresser, I commend you for taking accountability and conveying the need for a schedule. Amazing!