Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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@FrenchToast
Though we might be naturally disappointed, it's important to respond in a composed and constructive manner. Also demonstrating maturity, a positive attitude, and a willingness to remain engaged and supportive is what's more crucial.
We can approach the leader who informed us to give some inputs about what is expected and how we can improve.
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
This is what I would say:
Hi (Insert Leader’s Name) Thank you so much for letting me know 💛 I appreciate that. If it’s okay, do you think you could let me know how I can improve? I would appreciate it very much 💛 But if you’re not really comfy with that, that’s okies too :3
Again, thank you so much for letting me know. I hope you have an awesome pawesome day/night! 💛
@FrenchToast
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Ans :- Hi, thank you for informing me about this and to be honest I'm a bit upset but also motivated to work on my shortcomings and get a role in my next chance. Your feedback would be appreciated.
@LOOPHOLE
Hi, Loop. It's impressive that we can accept such rejection with an open heart to work on our shortcoming and expecting feedback.
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hearing unapproval news is challenging, especially as I choose role that i concerned the most, but I'm OK. I will connect with Mentors to improve my skills. I hope I can join the team at the next opportunity. Can I get feedback on things I can do better to suit this role? Thank you in advance.
@bestBraveheart57
Awsome , keep going!
@FrenchToast
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Thank you so much for getting back to me. It's a disappointment that i couldn't get the role I wanted to. Can you let me know in which areas should I work harder so that I can improve and try again?! Thanking you!
@Grace3012 Awesome pawsome work typing a good response! :P
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
@ChillingRain
Nice! Your response seems professional and well-written:)
@ChillingRain
Hello, Rain! Your response sounds confident and professional. It also shows how eager you are to learn from feedback and try for other roles on 7 Cups! Keep the amazing work up! 😁💗
~ Xaverie
@FrenchToast
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I would not respond badly, as it can be an understandable thing. I would try and understand the things that may have disqualified me from getting the role, and if possible try and work on those things so that if I was to try again that I can ensure things will turn out better. :)
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?:
I would tell them thank you for their time and for notifying me of the news, and that it is not too big of a deal. That I would/may not try again depending on whether it is achievable or not for the timebeing
@8grim8
Acceptance, gratitude for their time, and the promise to improve. You've written the perfect response! :)
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would thank them for the opportunity and the time they took to review my application, and ask for constructive feedback so when I apply for a different role, I can make improvements.
I won't let it discourage me, when one door closes another one opens :)
@Shannon1996
i think your comment about when one door closes another opens is an important thing to remember when we don’t get a role that we wanted.
@FrenchToast
Thank you so much for your time and consideration. I understand. Is there something I can do to improve my skills so that I can get the role when I apply at a later time?
