Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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@FrenchToast
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Firstly, I would not respond that minute, give myself time to process that information. I should respond in a professional understanding way, do not take any of what I am feeling out on this leader or anyone else.
Hello leader,
thank you for reaching out about this. I understand that I may not be ready for this role due to (whatever reasons they give). I will keep working hard and improve on the skills that need improvement on. Thank you for your time and communication.
~ Regan
Hello, @ReganL
Great answer! 💙 It's good that you consider taking some time to process the information.
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Remember to stay professional. Don't whine and cry just because they said not at this time. Work on the feedback that was given and the roles you have right now. Remember that it's not the end of the world there will be another chance to reapply.
Thank you ____ I love that you got back to me. I will certainly work on my (empathy). I will continue to be peer supporter and room supporter. I will reapply in a few months when I am eligible again. Thank you for your service and what you do in the community. 🙂
✒️ Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
@CaringSub
You're doing a fantabulous job with the leadership development program!!!
@DanCat1128
Your response was both positive and professional. I wish you all the best in the program
@quietlistener2023
Thank you!!!
@FrenchToast
I would reply: Dear leader thank you for getting back to me and letting me know your response. I was wondering if it possible to get some feedback and if it is possible to apply for the role again in the future. I look forward to hearing your response. Thank you so much again.
I love how you are open to feedback in your response!
✒️ If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Here's what I would say:
Thank you for letting me know about the decision regarding this role. While I'm naturally disappointed I won’t be taking on the role this time, I understand and respect it. I remain committed to supporting the team in any way I can and am open to future opportunities. If you have any feedback or insights, I would greatly appreciate it! Thank you for the opportunity to be involved in the process.
@SilverSeastar great answer! i've really enjoyed reading all of your responses along the way.
@serenePeace3726 great answer
I think it's great that they inform you one way or another to begin with. I would be gracious and appreciate the consideration. I would also want to emphasize that I am still interested in the position and ask what I could do to better my chances in the future.
Thank you very much for letting me know.. Although I am disappointed, I fully understand. If there is any constructive criticism you could provide me with for the next time I apply, I would be grateful to receive it. Once again, thank you for your consideration.
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would first respond by thanking them for taking the time to consider me for that position. Then, I would ask if there is any skill(s) that the leader believed I had lacked in order for me to improve and achieve better results!
@FrenchToastDear 'Leader
@Countrygirl095 that was a well structured and professional one ❤️
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
In my current job I am the one that is a leader and has to tell others they did not get the leadership role available due to other needs met or other candidates that fit better. So if I were to not get the role I wanted, I would be very understanding and now that at this time the role wasn't for me, and that I can always try again later and keep trying until one day I get it. I would not be upset, as I understand there is a reason for everything and perhaps at this moment its not my time yet. I would thank the leader that responded to me, definitely ask for constructive feedback and when ready (self care) and try again!
@WishUponAStar968
I appreciate your answer.👍
Hi _______
Thanks for letting me know the update. Even though it is a little bit disappointing news, I acknowledge the scenerio. I will certainly try to improve and apply again at the next best time. I would appreciate if you have any feedbacks for me which you think might be helpful for my further attempts. Thanks again for your time .
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hi! I had a great time applying for the role, and it did open my eyes to great areas of improvements and highlighted my strengths. If you have any feedback, I will be more than happy to hear it. Thanks!
@wonderousLove3994
that's a very warm response. I will definitely include this one on my note for reference. 💛