Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I'd reach out to the leader and say something like, "Thank you for informing me that I was not selected for this role. I was wondering what areas I may be able to improve in so that I can improve my skills and prepare myself for a role like this in the future?" In addition to this, I would likely take some time off of Cups for a bit and do some self care.
@WillingToHelpU
Perfect message, I also love your self-awareness too, it's so important to care for yourself when you've had disappointment! :)
Hello leader I am a little disappointed I didn’t get the role as I worked hard for it.. but I am always happy to hear any feedback on how I can improve and develop.. I look forward to hear from you ! thank you
@FrenchToast
If I wasn't given a role, I would respond as such:
"Hi _______ (Leader's Name). Thank you for reaching out to update me on the status of my application. I understand that I am not the best fit for this role at this time and I truly appreciate the opportunity to apply and be considered. I am open to any suggestions or feedback that you can provide on how I can improve moving forward. I appreciate your time and attention and I eagerly await your response."
@hopefulDew435
Straightforward and to the point, I like it.
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
This would be my response: Oh, that's too bad. Thank you for letting me know. Is there anything I can do to better my chances if I decide to apply again? I appreciate your feedback. :)
@LovelyKittyCat That's a good attitude to try again, I like that!
I would say, " OK, I understand, thank you for letting me know and for considering me for the role. Perhaps there is another role I might be better suited for. Any feedback or advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you."
@FrenchToast
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed youI
"Thank you for letting me know about the decision. While I’m disappointed, I respect your choice and understand it was made with the best interests of the team in mind. I would appreciate any feedback you can provide about how I can improve and prepare myself for future opportunities. I’m committed to contributing to the team and will continue to give my best in my current role."
@Moonstar2345
Great job! Your response was courteous, you showed that you didn't take the rejection personally, and you politely asked the leader for feedback.
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello, (leader's username)! Thank you for reaching out to me. While I am disappointed, I understand that not everyone can be selected for the role. Would you mind giving me some feedback in case I decide to reapply for the role in the future?
@PeacefulOnes
Clear, and well considered response. Keep up the good work!
"Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate you taking the time to provide feedback. I'm disappointed, but I'm also eager to learn and grow. Could you share some specific areas where I could improve for future applications? I'm committed to developing my skills and would welcome any guidance you can offer."
@JustLikeMellie
Nice, well thought out.
I need to think through mine more.
Hello [Leader’s user/name]! Thank you for considering my application for [role]. I have just one question: what would you recommend I work on so that I can increase my chances of attaining this role (or other roles) in the future? Again, thank you, and I will focus on personal improvement moving forward.
@EventHorizons
Perfectly written! This is exactly what I would do. Ask how you can improve.
@EventHorizons love your response. Asking for skills that need some improvement seems like the best idea
@EventHorizons
This is a great response!
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Don't take it personal. Ask how you can improve and work your way up. Request constructive criticism for improvement purposes.