Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello, leader's name, thank you for letting me know the result. I understand you had so much anxiety about new applicants. Unfortunately, I didn't get a role as I was interested in applying. I hope that in the future I can reapply and work together with your team.
@HealingAlien4444 I like that you were honest about feeling disappointed while staying respectful. Asking for feedback is a great way to learn and improve for the future.
@FrenchToast Thanks for sharing <3
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you? I would take some time to process my disappointment rather than reacting straight away, and remind myself that not getting the role doesn't mean I won't be ready in the future. I would reply with something like: "Thank you for letting me know and for considering my application. Although I'm disappointed, I really appreciate the opportunity to apply. If you have the time, I'd be grateful for any feedback on how I can improve before applying again. Thank you!"
@talktome610
this is a good approach!!
@FrenchToast
I would say "thank you so much for letting me know, although i am a little upset i know there are always areas for me to improve!"
@lyricalStrawberry4547
Pretty straight forward, and expresses everything
@FrenchToast
My reply: Hey, thanks for letting me know also I would really appreciate if I could get a feedback so that I can work on those areas and improve my skills,that would be really great, thanks again for reaching out 😊
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
If I find out that I was not given a role, I would respond with understanding and respect. I would thank the leader for considering me, ask for feedback on how I can improve, and use it as an opportunity to grow. I would say, “Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate the opportunity to be considered. I would love to understand what areas I can work on so I can improve and be better prepared for future opportunities.”
@Brightlynx77
Nice. I think your response is very thoughtful.
@FrenchToast
Hey, thank you for telling me the result. I understand you received so many applications and I need more training before being accepted. I still like this role a lot so I'll work harder and apply when I'm fully prepared. I hope you have a nice day!
@Irise nice response
@FrenchToast ✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I am so very impressed by that line; everyone has their own pace of getting the roles that they desire. If I found out that I were not given the role I desired, I will take that as an opportunity to brush up more on the skillset needed to get the role after giving myself the time to stabilize emotionally. I will have a growth-oriented mindset.
However, I will definitely ask the leader who has informed me about what areas are there to improve upon to be stated precisely and will patiently wait for the answer. Meanwhile, I will look up to my self-reflection.
@FrenchToast
Hi Leader,
Thank you for putting the time and effort into reading through my application. I would like some feedback regarding the role I wanted, so I can apply again so that way, I know what to do. Thank you for your time
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