Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #1) Welcome to Course 2!

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

@Heather225

How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

1.) The community will suffer as they will be surrounded by people that have little or lack pride in their work and their objectives in the case of low expectations. The lack of warmth may affect the community as it may contribute to a lack of unity amongst the community.

2.) It may result in a lack of respect toward me by my fellow leaders as they may contribute low work output by followers or low motivation toward work by followers as a consequence of my leadership style. I would need to take ownership of this and rectify the problem.

@Heather225

Hey Heather, thank you for making all the Course 2 posts, I think it is a really important topic! And not an easy question either. I will try my best to answer it!

Question: What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

Answer: If I myself have an imbalance, the turnout is most likely to not be well. I want to expect the best of myself, even when it is hard to believe in it, and I want to treat everyone with warmth, make them feel safe and comfortable.

So how would it affect the community if I didn't?
Not having my expectations up for myself might lead to less quality in my actions. I am trusted to be a good leader, and I appreciate it more than I can say. But I need to always expect the best of myself. If I am not working towards leading in a high quality matter, this might confuse the community, maybe even hurt people. And that is the last thing that I want. The same goes for warmth. If I don't treat everyone kindly, people might think it is about them, which of course it wouldn't be, and many people on cups are very vulnerable. Making sure that everyone feels safe and understood is a high priority at all times.

If I don't expect the best of myself, this is very likely to have an impact on other leaders too. If I am acting unprofessional, leaders might think it is okay to do so, as many of us are role models to others as well.
If I don't treat them with kindness, I wouldn't be surprised if they feel low after chatting with me. Leaders are just humans as well.

In conclusion, I can say that acting with the most expectations of myself and treating everyone, leaders and peers or members alike, with warmth, is my first priority, to make sure no one gets hurt.

Thank you for reading this you amazing, wonderful leader! 💜

@Heather225

I think that for a 7cups leaders:

low expectation would result in:

1) community: everyone feel happy and relaxed but community members cannot provide actually help to those who need and won't be motivated to improve themselves

2) leaders: cannot come up with creative ideas to solve real world problems, also might be inefficient

low warmth would result in:

1) community: works could be done but people won't be willing to put down their mask or thus improve their real self

2) leasers: tend to follow rules and finish task instead of providing high quality companion and really caring others

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?

I think an imbalance in expectations and warmth as a leader would greatly impact my growth and performance as there would be lack of trust and dissatisfaction with my team members. Minimal risks would be taken which would result in projects worked wouldn't be much successful.

How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

1) Low expectations in the community, would result in less urgency to grow and improve. Inefficient work, and lack of progress which would eventually lead to stagnation.

Low warmth in the community - Would greatly impact on trust , dissatisfaction not being able to express oneself, feeling of being treated like a machine.


2) Low expectations in leaders - Inefficient and ineffective performance, lack of development because very low risks taken. Being comfortable in comfort zone, and not thinking out of the box due to lack of encouragement. Less progress resulting in restricted growth.

Low warmth in leaders - Causing lack of trust and dissatisfaction with each other. There would even be lack motivation to succeed because there isn't much care and compassion. Feeling of being brunt out quicker due to lack of acknowledgement/appreciation.

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?

It would not be a a good fit for me. I would feel unsafe and trusting issues would act up. I would get overSimulated and over.Whelmed. I need warmth and knowing what I need to do to be successful.

1 I think having low expectations would lead to confusing Of what needs to work on and a lot of. Leaders wanting to not. Do the work that is put me front of them.

2 I think low warmth would lead to a lot of mistrust and a lot fighting that leads to work not getting down.

@Heather225

Low Expectations

1) People would not stretch themselves and grow, they would settle for ok and eventually the standards would be very low here.

2) I wouldn't take on much and would be of little support to my fellow leaders. They would be frustrated with me and it could create a rift in the team.

Low Warmth

1) I wouldn't offer a welcoming and friendly environment so people may be less open with me and it would shut down spaces instead of opening them up.

2) I would appear cold and distant which would make other leaders avoid me or feel like they had done something wrong. Again this would impact on collaborative work and getting the best out of cups.

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I believe if you have an imbalance you will have a much harder time being successful and reaching your Maximum potential, having too low warmth will be problematic because it makes getting help and feedback a bit more difficult, therefore causing a decrease in quality.

@Heather225

Low expectations would result in:

1. A lack of efficiency (a demand for quantity cannot be met), but also a lack of quality work. Demands for a certain quantity of involvement could refer to a certain quantity of messages in a support room in order for people to feel like you care, like you can create a comfortable environment. If this is not met, it has a big impact on how the members perceive not only me as a leader, but also 7Cups as a potential safe haven—a place they can communicate their vulnerable feelings and thoughts. A lack of quality work would lead to the same consequences but through a different route in this example; I might come across insensitive because I don’t analyze the room well enough and think enough about the appropriate response to a conflict happening in a support room.

2. Low expectations leads to, again, a low quantity AND quality of work. A low quantity could potentially lead to overwhelming other leaders who then have to pick up the slack—who might consequently have more on their plates than if I would have had higher expectations for myself. The ultimate consequences would then be appearing less reliable to my fellow leaders. A low quality of work would, likewise, ultimately lead to appearing less reliable. I might create conflict or unnecessary friction that other leaders would need to solve.

Low warmth would result in:

1. Low warmth would not be helpful towards members, especially in a support room setting as they may feel misunderstood. In the context of fellow listeners, I might cause friction, demotivate them or make them unnecessarily uncomfortable if I were a peer support.

2. Low warmth towards fellow leaders would, likewise, generate friction (or even unnecessary competitiveness), a lack of understanding and empathy and a lessened inclination to collaborate with me.

@Heather225

If a 7 cups leader has an imbalance of expectations and warmth , it may often affect the leadership role creating negativity and insecurities among the person and the people working with him or her. Its is always so important to maintain a good environment to make everyone present feel welcomed and loved and the positiveness may get compromised in such a case.

i) Its no doubt that the community will be hugely affected. They won't feel safe and secured with the leader and may also inflict self doubt and confusions on themselves due to this

ii) As a leader it may also affect me hugely because it not only the others but also me who would be suffereing from low self esteem and lack of positiveness thus making me degrade as an ideal leader .