Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want
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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Ans. I would definitely ask them for feedback as i need to improve. I would say thanks for reaching me. I would appreciate your feedback as i should have to improve certain areas where i am lacking in.
It’s great you would focus on getting feedback it is a great way to improve as a listener I think
@Heather225
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I would feel nice since I am not good with commitment so because it would have taken a lot of courage on my part to fill that application it would be relief but I will still ask what I have done wrong to apply it in near future . Also t will give me more time to understand t's ok it happens but there is no time to feel sad its work and learn together for one step at a time and there is always a next time on the Bright Side, I will say thank you to the leader for informing me .
@nessa104
I agree it is important to ask for feedback on these things. I hope you're doing well and your doing great!
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
If I wasn't given the role that I wanted, I would probably be upset at first so I would make sure that when I respond that I am calm (not emotional) and in a better headspace. But I would remind myself that not every role is right for me nor will I get it on the first try and to be happy for the person who did it because they deserved it. I would ask the leader for feedback and areas that I need to improve on. I would make sure to get in touch with a listener coach/mentor so that I can address those areas of need so that I can do better the next time I appie.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Thank you so much for letting me have the opportunity to apply for this role. I am very grateful. I realize that there are areas that I need to work on. I will gladly take your feedback and continue to learn and grow, I hope to re-apply for the role when I have improved on the areas that need improvement<3 thank you so much for your time
@Estrellitaa
This really is an awesome response and totally what you should do when you get told that you are not going to get a role. Sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders!!
@Estrellitaa
Very detailed and insightful answer.
@Estrellitaa
Question:If you find out you were not given a role , how should you respond? what would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I will feel sad, of course, but I will ask the leader to give me a leadership role, but after I develop my skills more and try to know my weaknesses and strengths so that I can perform my role in a better way.
@Zahraa000
I think it's a great think that you would ask for feedback from the listener that reaches out to you.
@Zahraa000
Great plan!!
@Zahraa000 It's okay to feel sad, it's good that you would reach out to the leader! ❤️
If I found out that I wasn’t given a role I should and will respond with thank you and I’ll try to get it next time. I would first thank the leader for letting me know and then ask if I can make any improvements for next time.
@glowingSoul93
Respectable Glowing! Pulling feedback as well is an awesome thing to do (:
@glowingSoul93
Asking for improvement is always great! It shows that you want to grow 💚
@Heather225
I would be upset, but I wouldn’t give up. I would thank the leader for their time and ask what I need to do in order to become a stronger applicant for the role.
@Heather225
I would do my very best to respond positively and with grace. Yes, I would be sad, however, I would also be grateful for the opportunity. I would tell the leader that I am grateful for their time and look forward to continue helping others on 7cups in a slightly different capacity!
@magicmango26
very nicely put
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Answer: If I find out that I was not given a role, I would respond with patience and acceptance. I would ask the leader who had informed me about the ways to make myself better so that I would be able to get the role as a leader.
@Zarram77
nice!!
@Zarram77 nice, always looking for feedback will go a long way
@Zarram77
That is correct, feedback is very crucial
@Zarram77
Always nice to see your reply, and perspective Zarram.
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would accept the fact that I haven't been given the role and thank them for taking the time to read my application. I will repeat to myself that it's okay not to get accepted and there is always a second chance! Sometimes, we need to stay positive and keep up with the good work! I would thank them for taking the time to respond to me and if I have any questions I would let them know, so I can improve and reapply again in the near future.
@ASilentBunny
absolutely rightly done!!!.
@ASilentBunny staying positive always helps!
@ASilentBunny
yes, well said. This is a working progress, taking something not so positive into a positive outcome
@ASilentBunny
Impressive reply, Pulling feedback and acceptance, taking it as a lesson to learn (:
@Heather225
if i found out that i was not given a role i would firstly as why and try and take feedback about the things i am lacking due to which i was not given the role. Then i would thank the mentor or leader who has taken time to give me the feedback and ask them to help me improve.
@incrediblelistener78
Good points, to me I feel like not only with 7 cups but with any organization, with feedback especially with a role/job that you didn't get, it shows respect and it doesn't leave the person wandering 'What if'
@TheRusticMystic74
Pulling feedback, That's a common theme in the comments here that didn't even cross my mind. You my sir, are a quick learner!