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Being a closeted transgender is tough

User Profile: ClosetedTransQueen
ClosetedTransQueen August 7th, 2025

The dysphoria, the anxiety, the current depression, it all sucks. But it’s worth it for those little moments of euphoria, like when you try on makeup or a skirt or something. But when I go to school I have to switch my personality and poise completely. I just wish I could press that metaphorical button that seamlessly transitions you.

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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 August 7th, 2025

@ClosetedTransQueen

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Im sorry that you are struggling and cannot just be you.

I'm glad that you get times of euphoria and relief and happiness.

You are not alone here 🥰

User Profile: Aayla
Aayla August 8th, 2025
@ClosetedTransQueen I'm so sorry and I truly hope you'll be in the right place to openly live as the person you are, sooner or later. Until you are in the right conditions to do it, I hope you can make the most of whatever moment of freedom you can get. Sometimes it's also about finding your people, the ones you can be open and true with, the ones that support you and give you a space to express yourself. But if it's not safe for you to look for those people or you don't feel ready to come out yet, it's ok to wait until a better time. Menawhile, hold on. Hard as life can be, there's so much beauty to cling to, even in those rare moment of euphoria. Let them give you the strength and determination to keep moving forward!
User Profile: adaptableThinker7712
adaptableThinker7712 October 12th, 2025

@ClosetedTransQueen

im transmasc and my parents don’t support. I’m only out to my friends, but my parents are extremely conservative. I’m not allowed to dress how I want, cut my hair how I want—whenever I want to dye my hair, my mom buys the dyes that come out the quickest. And so I look like a girl. You wouldn’t know I was trans unless I told you. And honestly, I’m lonely as ***. I just want a boyfriend. Is that too much to ask? But I’m too gay for the straights, and not masc enough for the gays. It’s just a never ending cycle of hearing how I’m not what someone’s looking for. It’s a never ending cycle of being stuck in a body that wasn’t built for my mind. It’s a never ending cycle of staying awake at night and wishing I was someone’s someone.

User Profile: carrotgoosoup
carrotgoosoup October 12th, 2025

@ClosetedTransQueen

Those moments of gender euphoria -- hold onto them tight! carry it with you! 

I'm glad you know what that feels like, what feels like really YOU, and how to get there (even if it's by yourself). I also hear you on wanting to skip that transition phase to get to the end result of that euphoria being fully-all-the-time you. It takes a minute to get there, and it can be hard (patience, continual experiences of dysphoria, and money) but you aren't alone doing it. You get to do it however you want/need to. 🌈