Being Trans
I recently figured out that Im transgender, but im scared to come out to my friends and family. I want my tutors to call me my preferred name Ash, but what if they don’t? And what if they tell my parents? My parents are really homophobic so telling them isn’t really an option, and my friends call me my deadname. Any advice?
@ashyayyy
hey ash!
come out to folks who will respect your confidentiality and identity. airhead people or not well meaning people will blab to anyone about you and that is NOT okay.
do you have anyone now you trust and know theyll be safe to share that info with? can you give them a disclaimer about what you need from them and that its important youre safe?
Hey flim :3
I do have one person I can speak to, they’re trans too, so I know they won’t judge me. I can try to talk to then and update you if you’d like? Im just scared to ruin friendships with people, you know?
@ashyayyy
i get that it's risky in coming out. Ruined friendships by staying closeted makes me think of masking, or keeping the peace. That's not a bad thing if there's safety concerns (or even: having a friend that doesn't completely know me is better than none), but it would be nice to be fully one's self in relationships. what i'm trying to say is, it's tricky and i get it.
Im glad that I have you to talk to with this. I feel that you have really helped me, so thank you
@ashyayyy
yas. here for you ash!
Thank you! Im struggling to find people who are like me in my area, but I’m trying. Im hoping to see my friend today who’s also trans, and Im gonna try discuss with them how they came out to be eat some advice!