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Bi/Lesbian confusion!! Looking for someone to talk about it to

User Profile: affectionateTown6259
affectionateTown6259 August 9th, 2025

Hey, Im Millie!

Ive had a feeling I was bi for a really long time, and I currently have a boyfriend. I met a friend of mine recently who I hadnt spoken to in years and she is now openly out as a lesbian and living her best life. She hd a boyfriend before and said that she had never questioned if she liked boys, so when she feel for a girl she was sure she didnt after all. As a result I began wondering if I even liked boys, and all in all now Im pretty confused. Maybe there is someone experienced wuth all this stuff on here who would like to chat and give me some advice?? I accept all kinds of help T.T

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User Profile: affectionateTown6259
affectionateTown6259 OP August 9th, 2025

please forgive the typos, Im crazy tired

User Profile: Aayla
Aayla August 10th, 2025
@affectionateTown6259 it's hard to figure out your orientation for sure, but the good thing is your orientation is nothing more than what you feel you are. It's not like you are "objectively" this or that, like there's a label attached somewhere on your body that you need to find and read. All you have to do is explore and analyze your feelings and fantasies, and see what they tell you. Of course you can always find out something more about yourself later, as your experiences lead you to new realizations, but that's true for everyone. All we can do is define ourselves through what we're experiencing right now.
User Profile: bluePlace4064
bluePlace4064 August 26th, 2025

I’m having the same type of confusing feelings, Millie… I’ve been with my husband for a long time but have always been attracted to some women. I think I have fallen in love with my best friend (she is also married to a man). We are both miserable in our relationships but I’m not sure she feels anything more than friendship towards me. It’s a crazy feeling to not know what you’re doing.

User Profile: PrincessJulia007
PrincessJulia007 August 27th, 2025

@affectionateTown6259 feel free to message me if you wanna talk about it that way it isn’t public 

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