Just found out Wife dated an old man
we got married in oct to a woman of my dream and felt like a winnner only to find out that she dated a 54 y.o. man before me. we are 28 and 29 each. And she met with while I was gone out of town, not 1-1 but still dropped in to his event.
the 2 separate issues are:
1. I am disgusted by the fact that she dated an old man and wanted a family with him. This flips my image of her completely.
2. I feel betrayed cuz she secretly met him when I was gone
I feel betrayed and want to divorce, but we have a baby on the way, so I feel trapped.
What do I do? It's been a month since I found out, and even though we talked through it, the trauma isn't going away.
@toughClementine5697
Do you really want to leave because she dated an older man? if it is only about age? why? Would you feel as bad if she had a previous dating and thought of a future with someone 34?
Going to a public event even if hosted or somehow connected to this person is not a betrayal IMO.
she chose you and you are starting a family. are you perhaps a bit freaked out feeling stuck and not ready to have a family and looking for a reason.