Daily Mindfulness Check-In February 19, 2022
Happy Feel-Good Friday everyone! 💚🐢
How are you doing lately?
I saw this quote in my interest this morning and thought of sharing it with all of you!
“Stop waiting for Friday, for summer, for someone to fall in love with you, for life. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make the most of the moment you are in now."
I find myself falling into this "waiting" thinking trap sometimes and then realize, after a few minutes, that I have lost precious time just from my mind focusing on the future than the present.
Check-in Question for today:
1. What are some "mental traps" that you find yourself falling from time to time?
2. How do you think you can better manage those mental traps?
Here are some cookies for you my lovely people!
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@crang17 Hello ! Thank you for the cookie 🍪 — here is a pie for you in exchange 🥧 !
1. What are some "mental traps" that you find yourself falling from time to time?
Often I am also waiting for a season or an event to do certain things. Also sometimes I'm afraid to do something because I haven't talked about it with my therapist before, I don't really know how to explain this phenomenon but it slows me down sometimes because I have the impression that my life must serve to the therapy whereas the therapy must serve to my life. I don't know if I'm explaining well — but I'm trying to stop this view
2. How do you think you can better manage those mental traps?
I have to create reminder notes for myself because I tend to forget especially if I am overwhelmed with thoughts or emotions
Hellooo @butterlycow ! Thank you for responding to the post. Hmm, I wonder if it is something that you also have to share with your therapist. It can be difficult if instead of helping you feel freer, you cannot do the things you want since you have to discuss them first with your therapist. But, I know and understand this "my life must serve the therapy whereas the therapy must serve to my life." Do you think it is more of validation from your therapist knowing that when she gives it then you get more confident about your actions?
2. A reminder notes are awesome butterlycow! I also feel the need for this one cause our human minds are forgetful hehe.
I hope you are getting better and better, dear! Thaaank you so much for taking care of yourself. 💚 More cookies for you!
@crang17 thank you so much for your kind reply ❤️❤️
You're right I should tell her, and yes this is probably reassuring me and giving more confidence ! But I need to be more free and less dependant !
Hope you're having a nice day
@butterlycow awesome dear!! I am really glad to hear about your insights and realizations. I wish you all the best and a happier and freer life!! 💚
@crang17
Hi, these cookies look so yummy 😋
As for other mental traps i fall for, it is that i overthink about my actions and what i do and think did i do it right? did i hurt someone while doing it, maybe I could have done it better, maybe i should've done this instead, i spend way too much thinking about what i did, so basically my trap is the dilemma of me being wrong/right,
As for how to manage it: I need to balance this out maybe by worrying less about my actions but also while considering others feeling just enough (not as much as i used to before) and maybe trying not to seek assurance from other people about my actions.
Hellooo @sweetSummer8201 , yes the cookies are made to make you want to eat them :P Just don't complain to me if too sweet cause I have a sweet tooth. LOL 😜
Thank you so much for responding to the check-in. Overthinking is quite common to a lot of us these days. It is such a bad mental habit that limits us and takes away precious time but as another overthinker, I cannot agree more that it is quite hard to control sometimes and is a mental trap we need to outgrow. I like the way you are managing it. "Worrying less about your actions and just enough for other people's feelings". It is true that we cannot really control how other people will feel. Sometimes it is not even about what we did. Seeking assurance from others can help too so you can really get that extra confidence that there is nothing to worry about. But, this can also lead to an unhealthy mental trap if became habitual and without your own self-confidence and self-assurance from yourself too. Hugs, Summer! I pray and wish that you're overthinking will lessen. 💚
@crang17 Thank you for your reply ❤️ I completely agree with you, this is why I'm trying not to seek assurance as much because it might have already became kind of habitual. Oops. If anything i should be the one reassuring myself.
A lot of times I find it hard to just even focus. So making plans is difficult for me.
I'm starting to make goals for myself. Taking small steps. And not trying to be so hard on myself.
Hellooo @Loveyourfate , focus can be hard these days, especially with the social media and technology around us. Our lives usually beg for multitasking with too many distractions around. Have you tried planners lately?
Making goals for yourself, taking small steps at a time, and not trying to be hard on yourself are all amazing ways to adapt in our lives! Good job!!! Keep it up! 💚
@crang17
Thanks for this post, great questions!
1. What are some "mental traps" that you find yourself falling from time to time?
2. How do you think you can better manage those mental traps?
A trap I used to fall in in the past was with some situations that they will get better, they did not and deep inside I always knew it but over the time I changed, started to accept it and that allowed me to become happier.
When I feel getting caught up in a mental trap I will focus on facts, make a reality check to see what is real and what is "filtered" perception.
Hi @amiablePeace77 , thank you for always supporting my posts! You are such an amazing teammate. Thank you for sharing your experience with a mental trap in the past. Sometimes just accepting that things are not always great can really help make us happier and more peaceful. Besides, life itself is uncontrollable and unpredictable so we can only do much to get by. :) It is good to know that we can plan and at least put some structure in our lives but there will always be a part that we cannot control and it is okay.
The "reality-check" trick is also great! If in doubt, we can focus on facts more than our emotions and be able to see reality better. 💚💚
@crang17
Right crang, we can't control everything and it's good like that otherwise we would not have any surprises and some of them are soooo good! 😊
1. Focusing or dwelling on things that I shouldn't be.. Always waiting on something that I shouldn't be.
2. To get my mind on something that I love doing, instead of worrying about something.
