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Daily Mindfulness Check-In July 13, 2020

User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 July 13th, 2020

Hi lovely people in the Mindfulness Community, how are you doing? laugh

Most of us know that self compassion is so important to keep us healthy. Self-compassion has a significant positive association with for example happiness, optimism, wisdom and personal initiative but

enlightenedhow often do you actually show yourself compassion when things go wrong, when you feel bad?

Here is an exercise I like to share again. Its not something new but it might be something which is simply not done enough in our hectic world. wink

Any moment you notice a surge of a difficult emotion, whether it is anxiety, anger, sadness or boredom, stop for a moment and put your hand on your heart (this activates the release of oxytocin, the hormone of safety and trust).

Empathize with your experience—recognize the suffering—and say to yourself, this is upsetting or this is hard! or this is scary! or this is painful.

Then repeat the following phrases to yourself (or some variation of words that work better for you):

heart May I be kind to myself in this moment.

heart May I accept this moment exactly as it is.

heart May I accept myself exactly as I am in this moment.

heart May I give myself all the compassion I need.

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User Profile: RumpleSteeleSkin
RumpleSteeleSkin July 13th, 2020

@amiablePeace77.... wowheartYour amazing as this is really what I needed this Monday morning. Couldn't really sleep got a migran that started in my neck. Fed kittens several times-lil greedy boogers-lol then up to work. Or as I thought lol. I went to clients house knowing it was for tomorrow.

So I got down on myself but I sat here and done this. I gave myself permission to forgive, I gave myself permission to love....and such. Wow now I am alrightheart

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP July 14th, 2020

@RumpleSteeleSkin

Sorry about your migraine, I remember when I suffered from it clear thinking was almost impossible, so this might have played a role in going to an appointment to early. Hope it's better now heart. Glad that day still tured out okay despite all of it.

Kittens can be truly greedy boogers, you can see that here https://youtu.be/3jjZjSWbKX0 laugh

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User Profile: RumpleSteeleSkin
RumpleSteeleSkin July 14th, 2020

@amiablePeace77 thanks for that video-it was funnyheart

Here are my 2 babies I am fostering

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User Profile: Erithiel
Erithiel July 13th, 2020

@amiablePeace77

how often do you actually show yourself compassion when things go wrong, when you feel bad?

- scarcely because I tend to forget that I'm not the only one responsible for the situation that makes me feel bad. This point, is a key thing I'm working on my daily life, gaining a look back at my situation before applying a judgment to it.

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP July 14th, 2020

@Erithiel

Eri (hope it's okay to call you just Eri), looking at the whole situation and not just condemning yourself makes sense to me. Sometimes we are simply far to harsh and far too little compassionate with ourselves.

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User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 July 13th, 2020

@amiablePeace77

how often do you actually show yourself compassion when things go wrong, when you feel bad?

I show myself compassion by doing things to make me feel better while I am down. Whether it is playing with Harley or doing something to build myself up.

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP July 14th, 2020

@pamharley003

I always found that my dogs had a very special way to make me feel good, so I can totally relate to what you say.

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User Profile: RinaP
RinaP July 14th, 2020

@amiablePeace77

How often do you actually show yourself compassion when things go wrong, when you feel bad?

I think that I always had difficulty in showing to myself compassion because this implied admitting my problems or mistakes. I've always been very proud and ashamed of making any mistake as small as it might be, so this ended in just trying not to think about any experience or situation that would make me uncomfortable and remind me I had some particular problem. Now I'm starting to think differently and I'm trying to look objectively at my thoughts or issues and accept them. This gives me the possibility to show myself compassion since I've recognized I have a problem but I don't need to condamn myself because of that. I think showing compassion to ourselves is very important if we want to move towards a better understanding of our condition together with feeling calm and more positive.

Wishing you all a nice day heart

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP July 14th, 2020

@RinaP

It must have been a lot of pressure for you and also hard trying to ignore what is going or went wrong just to keep up a facade which at the end does not serve anything but keeps you in an emotional prison. I am glad you learned to become more understanding to yourself. heart

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User Profile: Harmony8682
Harmony8682 July 15th, 2020

I don't really show compassion for myself when things go bad as I always blame myself or think that it is my fault as I tend to do negative thinking, but I'm trying to change this.

When I felt stressed today I put my hand on my heart and it really helped alongside taking deep breaths, so thank you for this activity! 😀

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP July 17th, 2020

@Harmony8682

Harmony, that's great news, so glad it helped laugh

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User Profile: Goldcherry2113
Goldcherry2113 July 25th, 2020

@amiablePeace77 I never show myself compassion. I need to this more often if not everyday. Thank you for bringing this to my attention!

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP July 30th, 2020

@Goldcherry2113

I hope it will become a daily "routine" for you. No compassion from the outside can make you feel as good as if you show yourself compassion, become your best friend.

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