Christmas Support
Hello everyone. Hope you all are doing as best as you can be❤️ Many of us have a very rough time around the holidays. It also is harder when you are dealing with any sort of mental health INCLUDING any eating disorders. Well we are here for you❤️
I want this thread to remain active till after Christmas as well as the New Years. Here is another safe place for you to vent or just share, cry or scream, even encourage another person who shares here. Many of us do not have that "ear" or even the support to help us around the holidays.
So please if you feel safe and comfortable share on whatever is needed. Also please do support others in their sharing if you do not have nothing to share.❤️
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@RumpleSteeleSkin
How true, thankyou for opening this space for everyone to share and seek support.❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Hello Sun and thank you for reading this thread. Holiday Support is so much needed now a days. I just wanted to make sure people new here was a safe place for them to share if needed.❤️
@RumpleSteeleSkin
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
awww thank you!
This is a very lovely and thoughtful idea 💜 thanks for creating Rumple. Will probably be peeking back during my Christmas hols. I miss a lot of family, struggle with the family I do have around me, have an eating disorder and it's like family and food, the two things everyone goes on about at Christmas.
And my message to whoever comes here - it's okay to not feel the festive cheer that it feels like everyone around but you feels. It's okay to struggle during the festive time. It's okay to set boundaries of what feels.okay and what doesn't. *hugs for anyone who might need*
@CalmCoral
Hello Coral very nice to see you here. Thank you hun as I shared before- I want to make sure others gain Holiday Support where they feel comfortable❤️awww hugs. I do understand and can connect with you on missing family as well as having issues with the ones that are around me. I do hope at least one or two of your family members do connect with you over the holidays. Having an eating disorder is very hard no matter what. I can imagine having one and then dealing with the holidays. I am here for you as many are in this area if you are open for some simple skills maybe that you can try.
I do agree with you on making sure others are validated for how they are feeling during this holiday time. That is why I am trying so hard to keep this area active and responses get answered.
Hugs to everyone❤️
@rumplesteeleskin Aww thank you 💜 and thank you for your offer below. I've made some origami Christmas trees today which is something so simple, but feel it is my quiet, happy, Christmas.
@CalmCoral
I'm proud of you for doing the Christmas trees- even tho you are not feeling very well. Love the attitude you are having❤️
@rumplesteelskin
Fear is kicking in 🙁 I've been doing so well with ed, now the realisation it's Christmas and I'm going to have a 'normal' Christmas, probably put on weight like most people over the festive period... Ahhhhhhhh.
I feel like everything relies on me being friendly with both parents, for my own relationship with them and the relationship between them both and it's all too much. It's the dread of how its going to turn out. Just the fear alone ruins it.
I wish I could just be excited. I know deep down however it turns out, they do want me to enjoy it.
Sorry. Needed little rant.
@CalmCoral
Hi Coral nice to see you here❤️ I so understand your fear on ED and the holiday foods. So many foods are so good-right? But then you do not want to gain weight. Can you control on the portion of foods you put on ur plate? I do this as I am a diabetic. awww yes being festive with family and others really can take a toll on you. Hugs❤️ Is it possible to take a few breaks alone where it is quiet so you can gain control again? Sometimes this helps-what do you think?
I do hope just 1 thing you get excited for-even if very small. But if you do not that is ok too. You can feel whatever you need to and it be alright❤️
@CalmCoral
Also as you know I can get busy with work and my home life. My pmland is open for you if you like to share in more details. I will answer you when I can. hugs❤️
@CalmCoral Hugs if you need them and accept them.
@calmMango9611
Thank you for being so supportive❤️
Thank you *hugs* @calmmango9611
I hate the holidays. I feel like I’m holding my breath until they are over
@agreeableThinker2962
Hi Thinker good to see you here with us. It is very understandable to feel like you have to hold your breath during the holidays. Can I ask-is there anything about the holidays or people or anything that sets a trigger for you? hugs❤️
Nice Idea..dont personally celebrate xmas but totally understand. Dec is always rough bc my bday is the anniversary of twins death..right between xmas and new years
@Bluewolf1229
Hi Blue glad you are here. O dear so sorry for losing your precious babies. That is so so hard to deal with. hugs❤️ Very understandable of it being hard for you around the holidays. Is there anything we the community can help you with for this month to be just a little bit easier? ❤️
No not my twins .. My Twin..but TY.
Dec29th just sucks! Our Bday too..sigh
I dont know people wantto say hi or check in thats cool! Add 3rd set of Holudays with out our mom..never gets easier..😭
Sorry my typing sucks but swore i read it before posting
@Bluewolf1229
Sending you big warm safe hugs❤️
The holidays for me are almost unbearable. I don’t know why I can’t get past my “ broken” family.
my oldest grandson who was my heart left! He emancipated from his mom 4 months before he turned 18.
Thanksgiving was beyond horrible. My daughter has tried I’ll give her that. But she drove my grandson away with her drinking. I suppose grandson blames me because I didn’t save him. I did try. In my state grandparents have no rights. I have 2 other grandchildren but if I failed so horribly with number 1 I can’t bear the thought that I would taint them.
thanksgiving daughter shows up with her fellow and his two kids. I’ve never felt a room that the air was sucked out of. I could hardly breathe. I don’t ever want to put the 2 grandchildren I have left thru something like that again. My husband is furious with me. He blames me for the “ holiday crisis “
I serve no purpose other than cook and clean.
thsnk you for letting me talk.
I know that there are others who have things so much worse.
but my heart ❤️ is nevertheless broken. My whole world is broken.
@agreeableThinker2962
Nice to see you and meet you Thinker! I am sorry to hear that the holidays are very unbearable for you. Hugs❤️ O wow on your grandson wanting to be adult age to move on in his life. I do hope he is doing ok and being safe. I bet you miss that piece that was always there with you. This is hard❤️ I did not know that grandparents have no rights when it comes to their grandkids being in need. That is very wrong I say. It seems you are a good grand parent for them all. Drinking can really break up a good family and bring on worry and stress. Very understandable for even the grandkids to feel this with their mom. And you seeing and dealing with it from your own daughter. I really do understand you on how this all is breaking your heart❤️I do not know what to share on you "tainting" the other grandkids. Kids now a days have a silly mind of their own-almost aliens I say. But love you give them all will never go away. Each of them feel this. Mom's drinking and all is affecting them bad.
You have a lot on your plate to deal with along with the heartache of losing a grandkid you loved so so much. Idk if my words are right for you-but I as a parent speak from my heart. Again the love you given these kids is thick. Everyone is dealing with issues and does not know how to deal with it. I do hope your daughter can gain some detox help very soon. And kids can see it in their hearts by seeing you forgive those we love so much-forgiving them.
Hey if you feel like sharing here 5 times a day in order to feel heard and better- then you do so. Everyone has enough space here to share much. I send you many hugs❤️
@RumpleSteeleSkin
Thank you so much rumple for creating this space. I hate venting but I want to share in case anyone else can relate and not feel so alone. This holiday season is honestly starting off rough. I recently lost my mom and Christmas was her favorite time so all the grief with just Christmas alone is hard. dealing with grief, in general, is hard. I also struggle with mental health issues and an eating disorder so that is extra tough. I'm also not getting any support in my family for my eating disorder even though a family member tried to give them resources which is hard because I know the holiday season makes my eating disorder worse. Depression and anxiety are also kicking my butt and yet we are expected to do so much in the holiday season and it's overwhelming because I don't have the energy. I’m also struggling with past trauma that has happened around this time and just past trauma in general. I didn’t realize how even trauma can get in the way of going to family events because I’m terrified of running into a certain person. That’s one of the hardest things too because some of my family knows this certain trauma and yet most of my family doesn’t so I know going to events also opens the door to being asked about that person since they are family and you are supposed to talk with family and saying you don’t talk to family makes everyone ask why. Christmas and the holiday season are always rough but I feel like I've always been good at hiding it or maybe my mom just really made it a good season till this year. Without her everything is hard and it honestly feels like I’m alone in it all. Right now there’s so much pain in my life and it’s honestly overwhelming seeing everyone so happy and yet I’m fake smiling trying to make it through each day. Anyway sorry for my really long post.
@Syd113
Hello Syd nice to see you here. I am sorry that you feel you hate on venting. I placed this here and try very hard to keep it active-for many like you to vent, share or just be here❤️O dear hun. Hugs❤️Losing a parent in general is so hard. And for you to lose yours around the holidays. Yes it is rough. Having any sort of ED at any time is very hard to maintain. I feel for you on not getting support from your family there. It seems like you are dealing with so much on your plate, and yet want to celebrate. I feel for you Syd really I do❤️ How can we help you here? Besides getting a big elephant hug from me.❤️
@RumpleSteeleSkin
Thank you rumple for your response back <3 I wish I had an answer for what I need or could help but I don't. I do need that big elephant hug though. ❤️
@RumpleSteeleSkin
Thank you rumple for your response back <3 I wish I had an answer for what I need or could help but I don't. I do need that big elephant hug though. ❤️
@RumpleSteeleSkin
Thank you rumple for your response back <3 I wish I had an answer for what I need or could help but I don't. I do need that big elephant hug though. ❤️
@RumpleSteeleSkin
Thank you rumple for your response back <3 I honestly don't know what would help but thank you for asking. I really need that big elephant hug though ❤️
@Syd113
Well, have another big elephant hug from me. 💛 If you need one, I reckon you could do with a spare. Take it in your pocket with you when you go to those events and hopefully you'll feel a little less alone. Best wishes.
@Clio9876
Hugs are awesome!❤️
I guess I thought it would be different this year. I'm not even sure how or why I thought that Tbh. Hopeful maybe? Everything hits hard at this time of year. It starts in Oct lasts til when ever - a slow build up. I know there's alot of bad things that happened around this time. So there's alot of anniversaries during this time. Holidays are just - hard. This year it's hitting harder. Idk - maybe I thought the mental health issues would be better. Maybe I thought I'd be farther along this path. Maybe I thought there would have been more healing accomplished. Maybe I thought I'd - Idk. There's alot of maybes ya know?
I have parents - aunts and uncle's and cousins. But I have no family. I went no contact a couple years ago. The people who may have loved me passed away a few years before going no contact. My grandparents took me in when I was 15. They buffered me from the rest of the family and the abuse while I lived with them - Idk - TMI
I guess they're just really missed this year. Going out with the grandfather to get a tree and coming back to warm apple cider and cookies. Hearing grandmother sing. It sucks not having some place to belong
@mytwistedsoul
Hi Soul wonderful to see you here! It is not wrong to be hopeful hun as having that hope keeps us alive in the inside. Understandable on the days where bad things happened and then trying to pull out some energy to be joyful. I am sorry hun you have to deal with all this bad stuff around the holidays. I wish you didn't. It is so hard to have the family members but then they just give back hurt you know. This is not right-no way! Gosh that must have been so hard on you to not be in contact with no one. Then you have those family members that look the other way on abuse. Tsk-tsk. hugs❤️Ahhh I do hope you had a great time with grandpa getting that gorgeous wonderful smelling tree. Oh man I love warm apple cider and cookies.
Thank you for sharing this here. Hugs❤️You do belong!
@RumpleSteeleSkin Thank you ❤️ got me alittle teary eyed with your words. Thank you for your words and your kindness *hugs*
