Daily Check-In Oct. 5, 2018
Taking stuff personal
Hi people, happy Friday 
Before the weekend kicks in I like to bring up something I struggle with occasionally, so I like to hear what you guys think about it.
"Taking stuff personal" 
Most of you will know the situation, you enter a room, people were chatting and all over sudden – silence. And here comes the little voice in our heads They dont want you to hear what they are talking about.
People talk and say something you consider as negative and you feel, oh thats for me, thats why they say it. Little voice in action again. 
The helping voice telling you Hey, no worries, they just finished the talk, hence silence or Honey, its not for you, nothing to do with you or Sweetheart, they mean it in a nice helpful way 
is switched off.
What do can we do to stop taking things personal and how would it affect us?
Who helps making a list? Ill start with the first one
1. Become more confident
Confidence acts as a buffer between you and the comments and actions of other people. The more confident you are, the thicker that buffer is
What about you?
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@amiablePeace77 I agree that my inner dialogue has a wide affect on how I feel so I try to keep the inner dialogue positive and upbeat
have a nice weekend
@soulsings
something to focus on, thanks, and have a nice weekend too
@soulsings It's always a good idea to keep your inner voice upbeat when dealing with someone elses problems...
@ChassyMom yes good point. The only thing I can really control is my reactions both internal and external. So I cannot control my thoughts or emotions but I can control where I focus my attention. So that is the practice I keep working on to refine. It is a long term project in my experience.
@amiablePeace77
HIya Peace wow you said it all right hereI am in the boat of at times taking-no LETTING things get under my skin. I let my boundaries down and not paying attention to how I am doing. And of course if we are not mindful, many things "go off"
But normally I let people's things fly past me now a days. Sometimes it flies right into my head thoI just focus on why the other person would say those things, and how they are feeling......Sometimes that works.
Again thank you for this wonderful-
@RumpleSteeleSkin
thanks for coming in Rumple. Learning not to let things go under our skin is a challenge for lots of people. It's great that you can let them pass by, at least most of them. I used to do tapping but for some reason I stopped but started again a few days ago. I find when something flies into my head the eft helps me to clear my head again so that I can step back from what is said. My goal is practise, practise, practise
most of the time, most people, i don't think care enough about me to make it personal... i only take that in when they say: GUS you are..... and then more often than not, it's something nice
most of what gets to me is open disrespect... and hey, who needs Respect to sleep at night ? 
@GustyOne4U
hey that's an interesting point of view. thanks for posting 
BTW I think lots of people here care about you, including myself 
@amiablePeace77 If I was invisible, I would want to hear what they have said before I react to the comments.
@sweetrosa1987
that's a good point rosa, , it might change the whole picture.
