Managing Emotions
I've found that it is easier to process my emotions when I just accept that I feel a certain way. By denying the feeling and trying to get rid of it, the feeling just becomes stronger. Observing what my body feels and trying to figure out why seems like an effective strategy. Has anybody else done this type of exercise before? What were your experiences?
Has anyone got any advice for managing there emotions?
@RoseAlice99
what I do is I now work on my thoughts. I'm working separating my thoughts from my reality and I set goals for myself everyday to help my emotional wounds. Every night I write down how I behaved emotion for the day and I make goals for the next day to better
@RoseAlice99
This was asked a while ago, but I'd still like to answer. It might be helpful for somebody.
One thing that really changed my perspective about emotions is keeping track of my mood every day and comparing it to factors like how much sleep I get, what I eat, if I exercise, what part of my menstrual cycle I am in - and then observing trends. What this did for me was help de-couple my sense of identity from how I feel at any given moment, and I could evaluate the causes of my feelings more clearly. It became apparent that most of my emotions were overall influenced by how much exercise I was getting, how well I was eating, or what point in my menstrual cycle I was in, more than any particular thought or event that, in the moment, seemed so crucial. It really helped me learn how to take a step back whenever I feel out of control, to pinpoint causes more accurately. It has also helped me to accept that my emotional state is not static, that it fluctuates due to many factors, and this is perfectly natural - something that I've had trouble accepting for most of my life.
I must say, working on how you react to things is challenging. Especially since I spent my whole life programming my mind to act and behave one way. Now I see that needs to change. But boy, when those people pass by with there triggers. It's hard. Today I was challenged. Normally I would speak my mind and tell about themselves and why I think there wrong. But I realized everything isn't worth my fight and there not worth my time anyway. Proud of myself. This managing emotions habit will get better for me.
Hello everyone on this thread. I feel grateful for this community.
What I noticed is the particular vocabulary to tackle this subject about emotions: e.g. managing, controlling, observing, not being drown into them and, for years now, I was unable to give a purpose to this, to make sense of these efforts.
Furthermore, it gave me an impression of being sometimes like a stupid child, all I wanted to ask was: but why? What for? Will I lose my spontaneity? What is dangerous about emotions? You see, I was raised in the command of being authentic, free and poignant in my emotions, and what I got in return was the creation of an image of myself: a cute ego lied to in order to make me feel special for I continue to express my feelings in a disordered way.
But it's only now I realise about this last part mentioned above. Until now, I was really convinced that freedom of emotional expression (whatever the emotion in question) was the human norm. Like a right. Like a gift for connection. That's probably why the vocabulary of control made me feel weird.
What I think now is that I have the right to own them. Fully own them, the emotions that I feel. It implies taking a step back, but it removes the pressure of feeling like a pupil who doesn't want to become cold.