Mindfulness Check In February 16
Today's check is about arguments.
Probably you have argued with many people over different matter. These people could be your friend, boss, colleague, parents, sibling or partner.
So, what you do after the argument?
Do you tend to let anger or resentment fester after an argument? You cut off all the communication and interaction. You do not talk to the person unless he made the first move or apologized.
Because a mindful person would not let his ego stop from making first move to talk and resolve issues rather than let the person walk away from his life.
He will be the first to amend things even if it means apologizing first. Because it can save your relationship with the person and may build it stronger and healthier.
A mindful person knows what will be the consequences of cutting off the communication.
So, what do you do after an argument? How do you approach the things?
Let's talk about it.
Thanks, @ASilentObserver- this is such a thought-provoking post!
This is a topic that I think about frequently because it has truly been one of my life's greatest struggles and I have to keep myself in check. When I was child and young adult, I taught myself how to really hold onto a grudge. Close members of my family struggled with alcohol and substance abuse and I just felt alone. So I started to take on the idea that I was above them because I would not allow myself to fall into the same traps that they did. But during that time in my life, I allowed anger and resentment to grow so strong inside of me that it took years to realize what I had done and start my healing process. I very easily severed some relationships without blinking an eye and I nearly cut off others that were very close to me. I'm so grateful that I was able to turn things around and grow my strength in forgiveness instead- toward myself and others.
While I don't hold onto resentment the way that I used to, I'm still sometimes quick to anger or frustration and I sometimes just have to stop and take look at how I'm feeling and how my actions are going to affect the people around me. Just this morning, I realized that I was getting frustrated and I was leaning towards taking out my frustration on my partner. But then I took just a moment to realize what I was doing and that it had absolutely nothing to do with him, so I took my aim off of him- I took a deep breath and started working on myself. I could have just kept on and started a completely unnecessary argument, ruining my day and his, and leaving him wondering why I decided to pick a fight. But I had to stop, because being mindful is a choice. And by choosing the path of mindfulness, I have an agreement with myself to make a real effort and hold myself accountable.
I love that you describe the a mindful person as someone who will understand the consequences of actions. It's such an important part of mindfulness- understanding the consequences. May we all have the strength today to understand the helpful and hurtful consequences of our choices and to make healthy decisions as we keep going forward! 
@OneTraveler thank you Traveler for sharing your amazing thoughts. I appreciate all your efforts to be mindful and responding rather than reacting to the situation.
