chatgpt helping me with my life

You said:

humans tend to be hyper selfish and lying manipulators disgusting people who pretend to care and backstab you, how can someone be relaxed when being among them?

ChatGPT said:

It’s hard to relax when trust is shaken, but not everyone operates with bad intentions. Building healthy boundaries and surrounding yourself with people who genuinely value and respect you can help reduce that stress. Focus on those who show consistent kindness, and try not to let the actions of a few overshadow the good in others. Ultimately, staying grounded in your own values and practicing self-care are key to finding peace, even in a challenging environment.

You said:

how do you do this when I had been dealing with constant neurosis cause of abusive parents? and it feels like people will do whatever for money, and sometimes your family values feels all wrong, using big words for something , saying one thing to appear nice or deceive you and doing other to take advantage of you, so this has made me get too much in my head i think.

ChatGPT said:

I'm really sorry you've had to deal with such heavy experiences—it’s deeply painful when the people who are supposed to protect and nurture you instead cause harm. Growing up with abusive parents can lead to a constant state of vigilance, mistrust, and overthinking, especially when it feels like the world operates on selfishness.

It makes sense that this has you in your head a lot—it's a survival mechanism, trying to anticipate and guard against harm. But staying in that space too long can drain your energy and make it harder to heal or connect. Here are some steps that might help you begin shifting out of this cycle:

    Validate Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. Your experiences are real, and acknowledging them is the first step to processing the pain and mistrust. You don’t have to rush past this.

    Seek Safe Spaces: Surround yourself with people who consistently act with kindness and integrity. Even one or two people like this can remind you that not everyone is out to harm or manipulate. Look for those who align actions with words.

    Start Small with Trust: If trusting others feels too big, start with tiny steps—like sharing a little and observing how someone responds. Building trust is gradual and doesn’t need to be all-or-nothing.

    Therapeutic Help: A trauma-informed therapist could be transformative in helping you unpack the damage from abusive relationships and regain confidence in yourself and others.

    Redefine Your Values: If family values feel hollow or wrong, create your own. What do you believe in? What kind of life and relationships do you want? Start acting according to your values rather than what you were taught.

    Practice Mindfulness: Overthinking is exhausting. Practices like mindfulness meditation or even journaling can help you step back from racing thoughts and focus on the present moment.

    Focus on Self-Compassion: Talk to yourself kindly. If you wouldn't blame a friend for feeling the way you do, don’t blame yourself either. You’re doing your best in a hard situation.

It’s okay if you don’t trust easily right now—it’s part of healing. But as you grow stronger and create a life aligned with your values, you may find it easier to let go of some of the fear and reconnect with your own power. Does any of this resonate with where you’re at?