hey guys

Yeah all your doing is letting that control you and your thoughts. Now I can forgive someone for anything pretty much. But I’ve had some pretty bad stuff done to me and I’m not gonna lie, I thought about revenge a lot. It took a good min to let that go.

But the reality is I was letting that control my mind and emotions. I would get upset whenever it popped up in my head. I could be having a great day and then bam. Any way let that go. It’s not helping you in any way. You’re not affecting they’re life at all by holding a grudge. Only your own. Do they deserve to occupy your thoughts? They don’t. I hope that helps you.

@Anyakn0625

i’m honestly not one to hold grudges.. i may get upset yes, but i always get over it couple days after, even if they did me really dirty. i don’t know if it’s a symptom of my mood disorder, but it comes to me naturally to forget stuff and move on, stuff don’t bother me on the level it does with other people. 

also, i forgive those who did me wrong because of me, for my peace of mind. i try not to let anyone have that much control over me to have me always hold a grudge against them, i simply forgive and move on. what good does it do for me to hold a grudge? cause it certainly don’t make me a better person. 

its a good thing that u forgive someone . its not disorder its your inner heart and kind soul

@Anyakn0625

if youre able to forgive then its always better to do so, holding grudges will just occupy your thoughts by people who arent worth the energy, i personally wish to be able to forget

@Anyakn0625

I'm having a horrible time trying to figure out how to forgive. I've had an issue for about 2 1/2 - three years now and have chosen not to address it until recently.

I knew restructuring my life environment did not leave room to address the issue properly so I was waiting until I got my feet planted on the ground solid. I figured it would take about a year but it took a little bit longer than that. I tried approaching the issue the other day and got a passive and neutral response with a negative air leaving no approach for healing.

I have several interconnected and colliding emotions leaving me very confused and unsure about myself and  how to approach this.

Almost all the negative energy that was placed on my shoulders could easily be perceived as to be my fault but I feel like that is so far from the truth. The ability for people to lie in a sociable manner with strong convincing powers, corrupts the truth as I see it. 

Trying to share my version comes out as weak, annoying, cowardice etc..... Leaving no one, that I've trusted in the past to talk to. 

I would like to forgive. I don't know if you can forgive somebody that don't think they did anything wrong or wont admit it. That's the edge of the iceberg as I approach the subject of forgiveness. I can forgive myself and choose to isolate myself from the problem but that's not what I wanna do. I want to forgive and they also want to be forgiven But it can't just be one or the other right now.

Over these past few years I asked myself, "why do I wanna go through the trouble of approaching forgiveness?" and I came up with a significant answer.

Answer: I cannot do anything good or beneficial for all involved with this cloud hanging over my entire family environment. I've always wanted to be an asset to those that I care about.

Balancing my ego with the truths is proving to be very difficult.

If anyone is interested in walking with me through this journey, I would be very glad to come back to this thread and add more to the story for context, reality and hopefully possible resolution. That would be nice. That is one of my goals for this year.

hey hope you are doing well

i hope ypu will able tp forgive them and move on to your life

good luck

@Anyakn0625 umm it depends on situation i guess but yeah if someone hurt me really really bad i dont think i would even wanna be standing in front of them