Personality Disorders Community Check-in: February 15th-18th, 2021
Heya amazing people! Happy new week!
I wanted to share this concept of ‘balance wheel’! It’s good to remember that we have to keep some balance in our lives, at least as much as possible. If all we do is work, it might work fine some time but for the long term it’s important to keep doing things that relax us and to take good care of ourselves (physically and mentally) else we risk a burn out or a breakdown… This balance is unique for everyone though! We don’t all need the same amount of family time (for some it might be a lot of time, while for others it might be none), we don’t all feel the need to work out intensely or to be creative, and it’s okay to have different balance wheels as long as our wheel works for us, that’s all that matters!
How are you really feeling today?
How is your week looking like? (any plan/goal, potential success/struggle, fun time ahead?)
How would you describe your balance wheel?
I can’t wait to hear from you all! If you’re not feeling like following the questions, that’s very okay you don’t have to, you can share what’s on your mind, you can say hi, you can grab a hug, whatever feels right for you! Remember that this is a safe place for you to share <3
Sending you all much love,
Waves ~
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@LinearWaves
1. How are you really feeling today?
Really crappy
2. How is your week looking like? (any plan/goal, potential success/struggle, fun time ahead?)
My life sucks mostly.Tomorrow night I am attending the Garden club, herb meeting.I’m looking forward to that.Struggles come every day with living with two disgusting people who I am trying to get away from.The problem is that I am very poor and cannot afford to live on my own.They pay me to clean their house so they are my source of income.
3. How would you describe your balance wheel?
It’s very much like your wheel.
@purpleTree4652
Hey there! I'm sorry to hear you're feeling really crappy... It's good to hear though that there was an vent you were looking forward to, I hope it went well and brought you some joy! These moments are good to take, especially when being stuck in this kind of situation... I hope that over time you can manage something better for yourself!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
@LinearWaves
How are you really feeling today?...Doing well, But Maybe a little tired at the moment because my bedtime pattern needs to be a little better. I keep saying I need to work more on that and really need to do better.
How is your week looking like? .....No major plans for the week ahead. Its still pretty cold here for the most part. And I dislike being cold. So been spending alot of times indoors lately only getting out when needed. However, hoping to break the cycle a little bit of Virtual workouts and possibly (and safely) get back to a group fitness class or two this week?..
How would you describe your balance wheel?.....I think for the most part its in alignment,but, could use a little bit of work in some places. I feel for the past few weeks, I finally have a much better balance than I've had in a while. And I know where and how to make the changes needed. I just need to implement them more & cut back when and where needed. And learn to implement changes when I know its time instead of holding on to things that no longer benefit me.
HAVE A GREAT WEEK AHEAD & Take Care!
@PoliteOcean
Heya Ocean! It's good to hear you're doing well! As for being tired and needing to work on your sleep patterns, I hope at some point you can do that! Do you have ideas on things to start though, like, can you already identify what precisely could be done to help or not really?
I hope you can spend a nice week despite the cold!
It's great to hear that you feel that you've had a better balance lately, plus knowing where/what changes are needed, even if it does require work and effort for sure, it's already an important first step to know what needs to be done!
Thanks for checking in, take care and have a great week as well!
How are you really feeling today?- Bad, I'm tired, sore, and not sure what to feel.
How is your week looking like? (any plan/goal, potential success/struggle, fun time ahead?) - I want to get my home back in order.
How would you describe your balance wheel? - More like an oval but working on finding the best wheel for me.
@Goldcherry2113
Hey there! I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with these feelings, plus not knowing how to feel... Did something specific trigger that?
As for getting your home back in order, do you have a plan for that already?
It's good to hear you're working on finding the best wheel for yourself, keep up the amazing work!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
1. I’ve been better but I went on a run today which was nice. 2. Only work and school that I know of :/ 3. My wheel is a little lopsided. My sleep and relationships are quite abysmal. I have also started eating barely anything in hopes of one day being good enough.
@NiftyBear
Hey there! It's good to hear that even if you've been better, you had a nice time going on a run today!
Best of luck for work and school, you've got this!
As for your balance wheel, it does sound to be a bit lopsided as you say it, I'm taking it that sleep and relationships aren't as you'd want them to be? as for eating though, I really want to say that not/barely eating won't fix anything, if anything it will only make things worse... And for the record, you're you and that's already more than enough, you're enough!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
I appreciate the support! Yeah i sleep between 1-5 hours a day. Relationships are always a problem and I’m just going to give up on them. It’s stress I can’t take. Yeah I need to work on my eating. I have also been working out and eating little to nothing. It’s getting rough.
@NiftyBear
Is it because of lack of time or problems finding sleep?
As for relationships, if they bring too much stress you should definitely preserve yourself!
I can relate on food + working out, it's important to keep eating enough especially when working out, as in the long term it could bring injuries... It's tough though I totally get it! But it's good that you're seeing its an area that needs to be worked on as it definitely is, for your health and safety!
I have issues getting to sleep. I have tried medication and stuff and I can still stare at the ceiling or have my eyes closed for hours. Yeah I need to work on eating. I haven’t eaten anything for two days and I’ve been working out.
@NiftyBear
Taking care of your body helps to care for your mind. Balanced eating habbits are important in order to avoid mood swings and decrease stress.
I would suggest taking a look at the "PLEASE skills" from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT).
Since you mentioned that you struggle with falling asleep, I would suggest reading the Sleep Hygiene Protocol from DBT, to help you increase the likelihood of restful sleep.
Please take care <3
I am feeling very anxious I recently got diagnosed with borderline personality disorder I've been struggling Alot reason for my diagnosis is trauma , me and my boyfriend constantly fighting . I got prescribed sertraline and propanol for my anxiety and borderline disorder and honestly it helps to a certain extent but after I feel really deminished. My week is looking stressful family arguments and stuff I just hope it resolves itself. My mum is worried because she knows how unwell I've been. I would describe my balance is off I want to improve it though by reaching out to other people who are in the same boat similar situation. It's hard but support is the first step to getting better and being able to relate to other people would definitely be a big help
@rachaelhempkin97 Being diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder can certainly feel like a scary experience! That makes sense, it's never easy to adjust to learning new information like this about yourself. I understand that you've been struggling a lot with your personal and family relationships lately. I'm proud of you for reaching out for help, it's not easy, and it's a really brave step. I hope things get better for you. Thank you for checking in.