Coded or Conversational?

If you're talking about 1-1 chats here, then natural conversation. Specific situations I have defaults, like a teen on an adult account. If I'm sharing ideas or feedback with another leader I likely do have a list, but it doesn't mean things are planned word for word.

In life in general I like to be myself with things planned. I wouldn't call planning things as being coded.

natural conversation by far is better...

many people can relate better with personal examples or stories that may provide illumination on what they are struggling with in a perspective they may never have considered .... natural conversation also allows people to pivot to other issues that may effect that current issue.

@Fristo I like being conversational! I wouldn't want to sound so formal that I can't connect with people and I think AI is known for being "cold." I think that's what separates us from robots!

@Fristo

In fact, I had not considered this before, but after reading what you wrote, I discovered that I share your viewpoint.

@Fristo I'd definitely prefer a natural conversation ❤ although I'm still trying to learn how to do this 😁

@Fristo

i prefer to be natural and conversational instead of being a planned coded software.

i like showing my innate personality and character traits, and communicating with someone naturally and free-ranged conversation, i feel more comfortable and less restricted.

a planned coded software is way too linear for me, i think this would work if you are teaching a classroom of students... but not being your own self!

I think we might want to consider the ways our socialisation from birth is actual it’s own kind of coding! We are conditioned to expect conversations to go a particular kind of way, to expect people to think and behave in certain ways. And a problem arises when our coding is too rigid and does not include any kind of adaptability to less predictable circumstances. Conflicts might arise when we meet people with dissimilar coding (a product of different cultures, different coding languages or different coding values such as prioritising “problem solving” and efficiency instead of “empathy”; we might be coded to value materialism and financial productivity over humanitarian concerns for example).

A core problem is that we do not even realize the specific ways that we have been coded to think, speak and behave in the ways that we do, and sometimes our coding might be dysfunctional or need modification to help us better live in harmony with others! (Although even this idea here reflects my own socially coded value that ‘living in harmony with others’ is a value worth pursuing 😹).

But one of the best things about our humanity I believe is that we interact with our own coding. We can rewrite our own thinking, and learn and grow and adapt. If we find some way of speaking, thinking, or being, that we appreciate more we can always incorporate that into ourselves using critical thinking, we can evaluate ourselves and our emotions and improve upon our existing “coding”.

Those are my thoughts! Great topic for discussion though!

CatsInTheCradle

@Fristo I've always been more coded/plammed, even though I think it ight be better emotionally not to be. I guess it depends on how well I know the person and the circumstances. Sometimes I might know someone really well and fall I to coded patterns, while othertimes I open up to someone I don't know. Just my opinion, ***.

I'd say you have to be "coded" to some extent when talking to others...there are very few who are trustworthy enough (or maybe who just have sufficient understanding) to where you can just be yourself with that person.

One more thought - As someone else here has already pointed out, the environment in which people grow up is also "coding" & often highly influential coding at that. But the other code source is, of course, genetics. One's character is as much guided by hereditary predispositions as by culture & customs picked up from other people. Which brings up the question:

Given the inherently deterministic universe we all live in, is there any real difference between a human & a bot aside from basic substance?

Humans are carbon-based organisms while bots are made of cohesive arrangements of data. But how many differences are there other than that?

Consider this for a minute, & you may well come to an unattractive but inevitable conclusion...