Advice/Thoughts?
Me and my ex broke up 6 weeks ago now. Weve had little contact but I know we both still love each other. I know there is a huge chance we can reconcile and get past this.... At the time he told me he didnt want a relationship and he wanted to be alone.
During all of this he has not asked me once to come and collect my things from his house. Never mentioned it. However since then I have asked 3 times about me coming to collect my things from his house. He has told me 3 times he will let me know when he has a day off work but he never has. I have always initiated the conversation around this. Last Monday I told him Id be round Friday, he said okay Ill text you. Friday morning came and I text to ask if he was still off work. He replied saying he had been called into work for an early shift but he finishes at 5pm. So I said ok thats fine Ill come after. He said Ill see and let you know.
We havent spoken since then however I know that at the time I spoke to him on Friday he wasnt actually in work, I know hes had multiple days off work and once wed made a plan he then said he was working (even though he wasnt).
Does anyone have any idea why this is? He also doesnt know that I know hes been lying about his days off and being in work. I personally believe its because he does want to get back together and this is why he is holding onto my things.... Inthink he just needs some time and space.
@BlackRoses180
Hello Rose, Welcome to Relationship Support Space. Thank you for reaching out and sharing your thoughts with us.
But, we apologize for the delay in responding to you.
As I see we are late in supporting you, can you please help us with the current status of the concerns you have and if you still would like to discuss and figure things out together with us? We would be glad to listen and support you, if we could be of some help. I am looking forward to hearing from you. Sending virtual hugs!
@BlackRoses180, he is being a bit selfish in either not facing things or maybe not being able to accept things? while i can understand, your in an adult relationship and he needs to own his own thougths. he can't hold onto your things until he makes up his mind on whether he wants to get back together with you or not.
would you be comfortable to ask him for coffee and be straight with what you know. Ask him why he's lied and let him know that you will come and get your things.
if you get back together, thats great, but as it stands, you can't wait around for him to make up his mind. What if he meets someone which often happens with men (sorry, not all men) for comfort and support and then decides not to look back? focus on you, he can focus on him and hopefully you will find both your happy
