Did he use me for sex? I feel broken.
I've been dating this guy for about 4 months. Last week I phoned him because I wanted to know where I stand with him, i was feeling on edge and just needed to know. He reassured me saying we are on the same page etc, I also told him it would bother me if he was seeing/talking to other women because I really like him and he said to me he doesn't have time for any of that anyway, so I guess I was reassured.
A couple days later I went to see him and we ended up having sex, most of the time we have met up it has ended up like that and I did bring it up that it was bothering me because I wanted to go out and do things and not feel like I was doing a 'fwb' thing. He reassured me and promised me we would have days out - that still hasn't happened. I guess I go to his place because that's the only way I get to see him. He always says he's busy with work so I guess I believed that.
We text everyday, but this week he has been acting really weird. Messaging at the end of the day saying 'sorry I've been busy', then went on to ignore me for 2 whole days whilst still posting pics of him at the zoo and a fancy meal which raised my suspicions because he took a day off from work to do this and it looked like a date to me. I messaged him the next day (yesterday) and then he replied saying that we need to speak (obviously can't be good right?) I got no response so late night yesterday I messaged again asking him to ring me so I can understand what he needs to speak to me about. It's been a whole day now and he's still not speaking, yet he's liking pictures on insta, watching my stories on SC.
Do you think I should ring him? Shall I just leave it? Why is he not responding to my messages? Is he afraid? I just don't understand. He's delaying this probably not to ruin his day but he's really affecting me by delaying this "talk". I don't understand what he wants, did my phone call trigger him into thinking he actually doesn't want to commit?
Please advise me, I feel really hopeless and broken, I feel like I've been lied to and maybe even used for sex and company, I feel like I've been given false hope and I've been led on.
I'm sorry, I can imagine how sad you must be feeling. His behaviour suggests that he has no real interest in how you feel at the moment, otherwise he wouldn't have kept you waiting for so long to have a proper talk. It doesn't necessarily mean he never cared, maybe his involvement just changed in time, but it could even be that he never really wanted anything serious... It's hard to tell. The best way would probably be to urge him to talk about it, face to face if possible. It is your right to put him in front of an issue that he tries to avoid, if it's affecting your relationship. Make sure to be as honest as you can and tell him everything about how you feel and how you see his behavior. It is hard, I know, and even harder because you're afraid of what you might hear. But that's the only way to properly care for yourself and you feelings, which in long run is the only way to be happy.
Remember, always put yourself first! If you feel mistreated, disrespected or neglected, don't be afraid to speak up, and if necessary, to leave and look for what is really best for you. We all owe ourselves respect and happiness.
@Aayla
@Aayla hey thanks for your response, I really appreciate it. The only thing is Ive texted him 2 times already asling him to ring me and he's read the message but ignored it. I wanted to call him but i don't wanna look desperate, he has disrespected me so do u think its better to leave it and not look like im chasing?
@drakkardnoir11 I would move on you deserve better 
@drakkardnoir11 if he is ignoring you completely, it sounds like he really doesn't care anymore, and probably talking would be unproductive anyway. If clarifying things means a lot to you, you can call, you wouldn't seem desperate, it is simply your right to demand a clarification. But since it sounds like he just doesn't care, there is probably not much more to say. Feel free to just move on and care for yourself, who doesn't respect you doesn't deserve you, and with time you'll find someone who truly deserves you and cares for you!