Getting obsessed

@Rousseau1780

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well, theres a few things I would like to point out;

I think I start to need some good help from you. I can't stop thinking about my ex. Our situation was so confusing at the end that I don't get to stop thinking about it! I try to get distracted, do other things but I don't get to do it, everything reminds me of him :( I don't even get to talk with my friends because they see it is hopless and I also think they're getting tired of hearing about it. (Breakups are usually rough depending on the way you grew up since your childhood, but from reading this few sentences it tells me you are going through a lot of anxiety, hurt, pain. All of this is because you are going through separation anxiety, its similar to losing someone close to you, so it hurts deeply, and when people are going through this much hurt and anxiety then they are likely to find comfort in friends and family. You are feeling his absence, and missing him so this usually takes a bit of time to feel better). I really miss this guy, his company, his friendship... but the situation is so weird I don't know what to do :(

I met him online and then met in person 4 months ago. The connection was insant, we really liked each other. I espacially felt how much he was getting attached to me, faster than I would. (The way he may have gotten attached faster, probably means that he had unmet needs, but I'm glad you two were able to met and experience something so beautiful). Then little by little I started to feel the same way. I was so much into him! But the last time he came to see me, about a month ago, we had a strong argument about him talking with his ex behind my back. (In here you felt fear of abandonment, fear you could lose him to her, anxiety and perceiving a threat so it made you lose emotional self control, which then it turned into an argument. These kind of feelings and anxiety can be quite overwhelming so it becomes hard to calm them down in the instant it happens). He swore he has nothing with her but it took me some time to understand that. (A lot of people who get amxiety or fear of abandonment become very distracted on reducing those symptoms to the point where they are not actually hearing what the other person is saying, even with evidence). He was very sad I couldn't get to trust him again, and that I was constantly insecure. (In here well, the person is going to feel like no matter what they do or say would not be enough, however in here he felt rejected because of things he goes through so it made him feel sad) Little by little he pulled away, until it ended. He said he still wants to talk to me but I was so sad I asked him to not keep contact for a while. (I could tell you were going through a lot of pain and hurt here so it made you say that). Now I regret it. I sent him an email saying I would be happy to reconnect with him, and he answered asking how I was. (I do know you miss him, wanted to hear from him, but did you also send him a message to reduce the pain and hurt?) Then I replied saying I would only like to keep things clear before starting a friendship (in other words, I don't want to get expectations if there aren't any). Of course, he didn't answer this time...(You shouldn't reach out to him anymore, no calling or texting until he replies to you. You did your part by reaching out, so its his turn to reply)

Ok, I've just seen he's been liking his ex's pictures of FB. Now I know this is over :(