Going no contact with someone who I’m in love with
I recently found out the man that I have been seeing for nearly a year has a girlfriend. I just cut off all contact without any explanation. I’m struggling with feelings of guilt and not trusting my instinct, but also just the grief of having been mistreated by another man. It’s difficult but I know it’s the right thing for me. I just wish it didn’t feel so badly. Why am I missing someone who used my body, took money and gifts from me. Gave me false promises and false hope, all the while he was loving on another person.. Most likely multiple other people.
The brain is so funny I know the truth in my head but my emotions are out of wack. I’ve been trying to get back to myself. I know healing it’s not linear and I know it will take time.
I’ve been praying and meditating and doing things that I enjoy to try and keep my mind off things.
@fearlessLime491
This is a very hard thing to do .... you are strong in doing it and knowing it will take time......
Just checking in on you. I hope you’re doing OK! It’s also OK if you’re struggling. We are sorry you’ve been mistreated! It’s OK to feel confused about his betrayal. Passionate love that we feel for a person, if it’s genuine and true, is rarely extinguished immediately, even if they betray us. It’s because you have kindness and loyalty in your own heart that you still miss the person you thought he was.
Wishing you peace and strength in this difficult time.
CatsInTheCradle
I feel you. Healing is definitely not linear. Specially when the person you are in love with is living freely when you are hurting. But it’s always best to lose the people who donot have best interest for us. Imagine having some one with us who is in love with someone else for life. You had to leave him sooner or later. The sooner the better. The sooner you let go of the wrong one the closer you become to your right one. I hope you go on a self love and healing journey. I can feel you as I am an empath and always keep ending up in these kinds of situations. But I am trying my best to become a better version of myself. Over the past years I have been on a self love journey, it is never ending. But everytime I find the strength to let go of someone who doesn’t deserve me I respect myself a little more. I feel happy that I am gaining more strength. I am now able to detect a player faster than I used to, able to let go faster. And definitely i feel I am attracting my right one more and more.
You are already doing great
.. And this is the process of grief... We need to greive over that love and relationship we had towards that person.
Gald u to took a brave step and stood for urself.
Yes brain knows but heart wants and irony sometimes is we r so used to pain and we feel okay to take pain with the person who is hurting u than facing the loneliness...
Keep reminding urself how hard it was and why u decided ,what u decided as a mantra .... And acknowledge all the feelings that come along the way.. And end of it it's all worth it
