I don't understand him and don't know what to do
Hi friends,
I ve been with my person for about 4 months. I live in Germany he lives in the States. After i visited him in October things got complicated, he started to say that he wants to figure himself out, doesn't want to date anyone and so on..
Now he is in Germany, we ve been hanging out and were doing great actually. Had a lot of talks trying to understand each other, did many stuff we wanted to do together; it has been just great really.
Recently he told me that he is confused, has feelings for me but one part of him still wants to see other people. Now knowing how he treats me I am very confused as well what is it that isn't enough in our relationship.
I care about him as a person too. I don't think I can have him in a open relationship, I love him too much to be able to share but I am also not willing to remove him from my life. But what can I do? It would hurt me so much knowing that he goes on dates, but it hurts me much more not knowing how he is doing.
It is just very confusing overall. We are not together, we are not single. We are single together, i guess..
Just wanted to let it out, don't have anyone to listen me, i guess that makes the whole thing harder..
I'm really sorry that you are going through this. I went through a simillar thing with my person. We were sort of involved but not really. I wasn't okay with the way things were because I loved him and wanted to be with him so I decided to come clean and tell him what I wanted. I realized that I shouldn't torture myself and settle for a situationship that isn't ok with me just because I loved him. I know that it's difficult to let go of someone you love but it also might be freeing because in case you get rejected, at least you will be free to move on and go after something that is actually meant for you and someone who wants what you want.
My situation worked out eventually and I really hope that yours will too. Sending you lots of love and support! ❤️
I am soo sorry to hear that but what u tell me, tells me that he just want to keep u as an option I would suggest moving on because staying is just painful and u should cut all contact focuz on yourself find someone who would be sure they want u until then focus in yourself
