I just don't know what to do anymore.

@Dhhsrn do you think he is cat fishing you what website did you guys meet on ?

@Dhhsrn

Hey there, Thank you for posting your situation, I would like point out some things.

So I'm in a relationship with this guy and it's about 3 months since we've been together. And we haven't meet yet. We're not in a long distance relationship. We're living in the same state just different place and it took about 30 minutes something to go to each other places. (It's usually a lot easier to meet when two people live in the same state as opposed to different countries). But I don't know why we haven't meet yet. I always ask him to hang out with him, do things together and I often invite him to my function (sometimes my friends throwing parties and I invited him but yeah, excuses) I just can't make up my mind. (It does sounds here like you want to connect, bond with him even more. You want to spend time with him in person, which is why you are bringing the topic of hanging out, doing things together, and inviting him to your function). When he giving excuses all I did was sulking and he full with sweet words so I forgive him. He always said, "we'll meet someday just not today."(This tells me he is not being direct, straight to the point and mostly leaving things out in the open when he says "we'll meet someday just not today.", usually one of you should go to the other, however you have ask him a lot of times to meet up, he has practically turn you down). Side, he's a really busy guy. He works like 24/7. It's not really works.... it just. I don't know how to say this. Okay 8 am until 4 pm, he went to work. 5pm until 7 or 8 something he busy with his hobbies. He like to play sports such like football, footvolley, sometimes he went fishing late at night. Yes. He busy and rarely has time for me. But he always give me call everyday. (It's normal to be busy, It's understandable that he can be quite busy, theres nothing wrong with that, however he has been so busy for three months or so without having a date and time open to meet you, instead he leaves it out in the open. I see this as a red flag because if he really wanted to see you then it would have happen already. The calls are nice, but I could tell he is not meeting one of your meets and wants). He never missed it. It looks like he do love me and I do believe him but now table turns. I don't know what to believe anymore. I read a lot of relationship thread online such on twitter and makes me doubt him. (Be careful when it comes to reading a lot of relationship threads online, most of them are not accurate and they can be quite misleading at times). I don't know.. I really love him though I never meet him. And oh he's not catfishing me bcs we often video call and sending selfies so I think he's not catfishing me. And I also know several of his friends so I think he's a real human. Hmm.. okay so lately about 3 days before we're having an argument. It's not a serious argument it just me who picking up the fight bcs he didn't reply and open my text while his last seen always changing and he didn't call me all day but only at night. (The whole picking up a fight comes from a fearful mindstate, feeling you might not hear from him, that he could possiblt be ignoring so it makes you pick up a fight on an attempt to gain that closeness back. The best mindset to have is "Maybe he is busy and will get back in touch with me when he can") He explained why he did that. (It's bcs one day before my friend saw my text with him and it kinda harsh so he decided not to create any conversation history that day bcs he realise it was his fault) ugh idkkk.(His explanation doesn't make any sense...) He's so unpredictable. I don't know the way he think. And last night I said to him "let me go." He thought I was playing so he start to sing don't let me down but changw it to don't let me go. (This can be quite tricky, because he should have ask you more as to why you would say that to him, he did overlook what you said). Then I rising up my voice and said it again, "let me go, I'm serious. You want me or don't want me?!" (We were on the phone) he was startled and he said I want you and change the topic real quick. (Now in here I could tell you felt unsure, but also frustrated because you felt he was not listening to what you were saying. I learned that is okay to be playful and fun a lot, but theres always a time and place for that, such as knowing when to be playful and fun, and when not to, and on this ocassion he shouldnt have been making jokes then switching the topic) Hm. He always like that. When I'm bringing up the breakup things, he'll make jokes and never be serious about that. Ugh I could just leave you without asking but I can't do that bcs I'm scared of karma. (If you want to breakup with someone then do it, not bring it constantly because it can be perceived in a way to cause a reaction out of him) I really don't know what to do. I love him. I really do. He is so different than other guy and sometines I think that I'm such a lucky girk to know him. But I really don't know now. He know how to handle me, make me laugh everyday and know how to get me. And you guys know? (Well being playful and fun, knowing how to treat you, romancing you properly can be quite rare in a guy, most guys would have been too serious by now, but he is keeping things playful and fun which makes you feel special and comfortable). WE WERE NEVER HAVING AN ARGUMENT MORE THAN ONE DAY AND USUALLY IT ONLY LAST LONGER FOR LIKE 2 HOURS....bcs he know how to make me laugh when I'm mad. He said, he don't like when I'm sulking bcs sometimes it only a small matter we shouldn't make it complicated. (Being playful and fun after the argument or disagreement is resolved its the best way to go, however he does it while the disagreement starts, then feels it's only a small matter when he should be listening and understanding where you are coming from. This also shows he is a centered man and that not many things fazes him) Yeah. But really, I don't know what to do. Is he being true to me? Or he just play me? When he came back from playinh footvolley at night, he'll call me.(I could tell you are unsure, you don't know where you stand with him, so it makes you feel this way, perhaps nervous with a lot of racing thoughts). Sometimes I can hear his voice like breathless bcs tiredness but he give me a call straight away but I think it's not enough to say he don't lie to me? Does it? Hm. And when he wake up in the morning, he'll call me. I remember when he leaving me for 3 days bcs he went fishing. It was second day when he call me and said he want to go home early bcs he miss me. (And it was bcs the waves) we're never have any disagreement about cheating, lies about girls, girl friends, boy friends bcs we both know the boundaries. Baby I love you so much but I don't know if I should try harder or give up. This is all messed up. I don't know what to do