Letting Go Of A Toxic Relationship
Letting go of any relationship is difficult. Letting go of a toxic relationship is even more difficult. One never expects to get into a toxic relationship, and when you realize that youre in a toxic relationship, it usually catches you by surprise.
The problem is, while we recognize a relationship as toxic, it is still quite difficult to convince ourselves to let go. One of the first things you need to remind yourself when you let go of a toxic relationship is that you are not weak for wanting to let go of the relationship. The signs of a toxic relationship can vary at times.
Sometimes theyre clear cut: you might be experiencing emotional and physical abuse, lying, and cheating. However, there may be times when you might not be sure if you are in a toxic relationship, but you do find yourself feeling something off about your whole relationship. This might be characterized by feeling lonely, despite being in a relationship, a feeling of not wanting to see your partner, or the feeling of a lack of intimacy between the both of you.
It is difficult to leave a relationship, even a toxic one, because of the fear that one might end up alone and unloved. However, once you have come to terms with the fact that you are in a toxic relationship, and have made the decision to leave, this gives you the strength to change your life with your own two hands for the better.
Sometimes being selfish is exactly what you need out of your life, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You cannot keep living with the mentality that if you love your partner enough, they will be willing to change for you. If they were really willing to change themselves, they would have done so a long time ago.
If the relationship makes you feel bad, then it might be a bad relationship. Fight for your relationship if its still worth it, but if you find theres no point, then allow yourself to let go. Sometimes our lives are not better by the people we keep in our lives, but by those we choose to let go to improve our lives.
Have you ever been in a toxic relationship? What advice can you give about getting over it? Send me a message, or leave a comment below, and well talk about it!
Yep I was the toxic one, but too bad there's not really a fix for it. I'm just a terrible person, I guess...
@Phthalo
Nahhh I used to feel the same, everyone makes mistakes EVERYONE, the thing is to accept them and to compromise to learn about them and of course not repeating them. I felt incredibly guilty a while ago when I broke up with my ex bf, felt that I was the worst person ever, but with time and when things cool down you get a better idea of why you did what you did and your learn from that, I dont thing you are a bad person, you just made a mistake or mistakes but that doesnt mean your are a horrible human being, sometimes we are just as*holes without knowing or like me, I was mean because I had tons of sh*t going on in my mind that needed attention and care (childhood issues, dad passed away, self stem problems).
@ItsjustDenisse Things have already cooled down though, it's been 7 months...
And I know my tendencies and ways of thinking are more than just mistakes, more than just a few isolated events that come and go...
Thanks for the kind thoughts though
@Phthalo
Would you like to change those things?
@ItsjustDenisse I mean, sure, but it doesn't look like I can even begin to without spending money that I don't have...
I am coming out of a toxic relationship. Been with the partner for 30 years. We started out as best friends, or so I thought. Not so sure the defining moment when it all became so toxic. I feel like I am dealing with PTSD. I am watching him start another relationship the same as we started. Really making me question the whole 30 years, myself, and how I allowed it to affect the whole family dynamics.
