My ex wont stop trying to contact me, what can i do?
Hello All!
Recently ive been trying to decrease contact with my ex.
We are friends and the breakup occurred over a year ago, no grudges it ended on mutual ground.
I recently found out that she still has feelings for me so ive been slowly stopping contact, this is difficult for me as she is a family friend and also in a relationship so i do tend to see her weekly/fortnightly.
Ive slowly weened her off my social media and told her i need space to move on and grow as an individual.
The only problem is she wont appreciate or respect my wish, she agrees with what i say then contacts me the next day as if the conversation had never taken place!!
Does anyone know of another way i can go about telling her or minimising further contact from her, i dont want to get to the point where i have to completely avoid her or delete all social media as friends and family support me through these.
Any help or advice is highly appreciated :)
@lewbyyy
I feel you. I had this terrible ex BF who won't stop contacting me, and it got to the point where everybody still think we're together bcs he won't delete our photos in his social media. It had been going on for like 3 months or so until I started going out with someone new. He slowly backed out. Right now we're just friends. Sometimes he'd DM me asking how I am, and I'd relpy his, but I never do anything that may encourage him to talk more.
I think your ex will stop contacting you once you've found another girl. It hurts to pine for someone who likes someone else. Just let her be for now. If you don't feel like talking to her it's okay, you don't have to.
@tealStrings0410
Wow yeah i feel for you now im glad you found a solution to youre problem!
That sounded a little more extreme then my situation but nevetheless very relevant, i am trying to go out and meet new people and i have done!
She had found out i was meeting a girl and this is when the contact increased! although i shall take your advice at times when she does contact i may not warrant a reply as much it just seems as soon as i start to build myself up she pops up!
Thank you highly for youre advice i may not reply as much and see what the outcome is :)
@lewbyyy
Tell her if she doesn't stop you have to take more drastic measures.
Is not ok for her to insist, specially if she's in another relationship.
The only thing I'm seeing here is to block her from contacting you and if someone asks for justifications you say exactly what happened
@Booklover95
Yes shes in her relationship but it seems as if she likes to keep tabs on me!
I agree i may have to be more assertive if things dont change i did want to avoid fully dropping all contact but if nothing else works that maybe my only option i just dont get why some people dont want you to grow!
Thank you for youre advice :)
@lewbyyy
I've had experiences like yours and with me they only took things seriously when I blocked them.
They thought I would never actually do it, so maybe she thinks the same way?
Either way I wish you the best of luck. having a crazy ex is stressfull and ceepy :|
@Booklover95
Come to think of it i do tend to be very polite and helpful to people this i know does and always will get taken for granted by some, i guess sometimes i just dont like to believe its happening to me, i think thats what she must think when i threaten her with cutting all ties she calls my bluff, i believe that my case might be the same as yours so i will do just that if it persists.
Again i agree its not the best feeling in the world when youre trying to get on with your life :(
Thank you for youre advice again its been really helpful and appreciated :)