My fiancé cheated and left me

@Graciebrijo I'm sorry but he's not your best friend. I could understand if he was drunk and his judgment was impaired but if he did also cheat on you to deliberately hurt you because he was upset over something petty that's not a relationship that's fair to you. That wouldn't be a fair friendship either.

I know it must really hurt now but he did you a favor. You deserve a lot better it's for the better he's out of your life. He made it clear you weren't a priority. You deserve someone who will make it clear that you are.

@Graciebrijo

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

My fiance cheated on me and left me. This is the second time as a year ago he kissed someone when he was drunk and I forgave him. (I get the feeling he tried to minimize the situation by saying he was drunk) This time he slept with someone and he decided to do it when he was sober because he was annoyed at me over something small. (This is the second time he is trying to minimize the situation and trying to blame you for what happened. He is the kind of person who often projects and never accept responsability) Hes been so horrible and selfish during this whole thing. (This is because he only cares about his needs and wants) He has depression and also a lot of family problems and was abused as a child. (This is very sad, but is still his responsability to act like an adult) He decided to report the abuse and most of his family disowned him. Recently he was told it wasnt going to court because of lack of evidence but he said he was fine about it. (He is minimizing the situation again here, he wasn't "fine" about it) He just got a new job, we were getting ready to move country, there was financial pressure with the wedding coming up. I dont know whether to assume this all caused the problems or just to accept that hes an A**hole. (The financial pressure or life problems has nothing to do with this, he is just a selfish person who cares about himself) He seems to have changed for the worse because this is not the kind loving man I knew. (Most people will put their best foot forward at the beginning, so you will see a different side of them, but they will show their true colors once they get too comfortable) Im completely broken and lonely without him. (This tells me your happiness and well being depended on him. You entered this relationship being unhappy, and he was like the band-aid that would cover those past issues you have. It's very unhealthy to rely on another partner so you wouldn't feel lonely) Im now moving country alone with no job or financial support. Ive lost all my money on the wedding which is non refundable. He says he wants to work on himself and hopefully make his way back to me (These are excuses he is using on you because he doesn't want to be too close to you) and I dont know whether to keep hoping for him or to try and move on and forget about a future with him. (He cheated on you, which means he doesn't value the relationship, so you should definetly find a man who will love you and be loyal to you. The guy you are with is selfish and a jerk, things will not get any better with him) When it happened i offered to do counselling but he didnt want to. (He is basically saying "I will not change for you or anyone else, this is who I'am") He only cares about himself right now and gets annoyed if i contact him (You shouldn't chase or contact someone who cheated on you, this will decrease your value in his eyes and then he will not want you) because im hurting and need him. (This tells me you are trying to soothe your anxiety and hurt feelings through him, so he is no longer a person, but an object to soothe your anxiety)Hes been my best friend for 6 years and now he just doesnt care.

also a little more info is that we hung out and kissed and cuddles recently but he still doesnt want to get back together. (I could be wrong, but it does indicate you keep bringing the relationship topic as a way to lock him down so he wouldn't leave you. You are giving him kisses and cuddles, so it communicates this to him "I don't need to be in a relationship with her since i still get the benefits of having her like this", its communicating low value to him) Im so scared hes going to go and sleep with loads of people while were apart. (This is anxiety and fear of abandonment, you don't feel worthy enough to be with someone. He is allowed to do this, just like you are able to date other people) He got angry at me the other day when he was out with his friends (You are starting to smothered him and making him feel trapped...this will only push him away. You should no be contacting someone who cheated on you, it communicates to him you don't have self-respect. You need to go no contact, while waiting for him to reach out, but just know he will cheat on you again) because I texted asking for reassurance that he wasnt with anyone else. (You are basically using him to soothe your own anxiety, he is basically an object to soothe your anxiety. You are responsible for your own feelings, you don't need his reassurance) We have barely spoken since that because he told me im being too much. (This is because you are contacting and chasing a guy who cheated on you, asking for reassurance, so this is going to push him away. You need to stop this behavior) Part of me is not talking to him because i want him to feel the pain of not having me around. (Go no contact) I just want him to realise how bad hes going to feel without me in his life and how good he had it. (How can you achieve this when you keep contacting him and asking for reassurance? This is why its important to never reach out first until he contacts you, your value and self-respect increases when you decide to walk away for good. He cannot handle relationship, he will cheat on you if you two get back together...) He wouldnt even move out of our apartment after what he did. I had to leave and I did nothing wrong. While he was cheating on me I was sitting home telling my friends i missed him and couldnt wait for him to get home and planning surprises for our wedding day. Part of me is screaming move on and part of me is screaming get him back. I dont know what to do. Help me im so completely broken and lonely. (You should never go back to a cheater because they will always cheat on you, unless they are serious about getting professional help)