My heart hurts

My husband and I recently put down our dog and we’re dealing with that loss. We went away for a few days and I thought he would be happy but he’s not. He’s grumpy and overall has an angry demeanour towards me. Whenever his family or friends call he is so happy but when it comes to me he’s not. One morning he comes downstairs and tells me he should be able to leave the bathroom dirty because my makeup is everywhere. I acknowledged what I did was wrong but he keeps going on and on. I was left crying but went on with my day. Later on we got into an argument because I made a suggestion about pursuing a certain technique for his mental health based on a TV show I was watching. He got so offended and brought up my mental health as retaliation. I was visibly upset and went up to my room crying. He then comes and finds me to ask me to clean a cutting board so he can use it because it is “my job” to clean the dishes. I found this upsetting - he disregards my crying many times. I am left emotionally drained. I told him what he asked was inappropriate and he got upset and I followed him to try and explain. Without knowing, my voice was raised and he got even more upset - getting right up in my face and taunting me. I shoved him out of anger and hurt and went downstairs crying hysterically. He finds me and tells me to shut up and consistently swears. Whenever I do something wrong it is my fault and the subsequent reaction he has is my fault according to him and I shouldn’t feel upset about anything. He speaks to me with so much anger - swears, tells me to get out of his face and raises his voice. I left the house because I couldn’t be in there anymore. I sent a message explaining my hurt but I don’t think he cares. His unhappiness in our relationship is all my fault according to him. I’m at a loss…I know I’m an overly sensitive person but he just doesn’t care or even respect me.