On my way to get better, but with new fears
Hello!
I thought I would write about how I've been feeling after my breakup. I think I passed the first phase of extreme sadness, though I still cry every day. I started to focus on myself a bit more, and try to answer questions about me and not him. I ask for example "Why did I go through this? What took me to have this problem?" instead of asking "What is he thinking now?". I still wonder why he doesn't come back and I still long for a message from him, but I guess that will be my next step.
I have new fears though: fear of the future, fear of things that remind me of him, fear of feeling too lonely... There are even parta of the city where I can't go because they remind me of him. I would like to know if you have any advice on these topics.
(Ok, writing this made me cry so bad :'( )
Have a nice day everyone!
@Rousseau1780 Hi there, first I want to say how proud of yourself you should be for getting through the first phase! That means you are learning and you are growing, and although it is still painful, I know you have everything it takes to move on from this hardship. It is great that you are trying to focus on you and not him. In terms of those fears that you mentioned, how you are feeling is completely normal and many of us going through a break up experience these feelings so please know you are not alone! If you think about it, right now you are in a transition period and it will take some time to get used to this change in your life. It is natural to have a fear of the unknown now or of feeling lonely - yes, you may feel that way but only temporarily. Now you can begin to redefine yourself again and to be independent. My biggest tip is something that you have already done, which is focus on you! Try new things, do things you love to do, try picking up a hobby or class you have always wanted to try. Take care of yourself and show yourself love during this time. The main thing is that we have to understand that the process will take some time and to try to take slowly, day by day and not to overwhelm yourself. I believe that everything is happening for a reason and I know that if you continue down this path, you will find healing and happiness again. Please take care and all the best. xo