Out of time
The best way I could describe the situation with my partner is The Weeknd song, Out of Time, word for word. We broke up because we had a toxic situation where I was not giving the best of myself , I let myself go and I was not as supportive as my partner needed. She tore me down with her words and actions after she got pregnant and it turned abusive toward me so I decided to leave rather than having my son see me be abused. The plan was to take a break and date each other again. It didn’t happen that way. A year later , after not clicking we gave each other time and space.. for three months . I realized that I loved her but she said she was seeing other people. The thought terrorized me. I got my things out of our home at last and she asked me to talk for closure. It went well we learned a lot about ourselves but she said it was just too late the spark was gone. She would try to find love again but it was 70/30 not going to work. We played house for a week exchanging I love yous, marriage ideas and baby names there was a lot of back and forth between I love you and I don’t .. in the end I feel things got serious with her new person or she got tired of me trying to win her back and being so sad about our reality.. she has now asked me to leave for good. She said she did it for a whole year she waited for me and I didn’t mind hurting her , so now I have to be strong. She learned to be alone. I have to let her go. I know I probably should but a part of holds on to the hope of the new us getting along so well now. But she said maybe if we give it time in a year or who knows when we will find each other along the way. I am scared and I’m doing it scared but I feel so alone and empty. Please help
@orangeVase1703
unfortunately sometimes the feelings are GONE it can be from a person coming to terms the relationship is not and will not work.... and they process their true feelings .......
I know it hurts and may not be what you want but if the feelings are GONE it has little to do with another person in their life or something time will fix ........... Trying to make it work you did that and in the end it was NOT reigniting a spark ......... after some things have happened between two people there is no going back..... you both have grown and learned about yourself and really are not the same people you were at first........
i wish that was taught the biggest item that comes between people are those changes ............not others/ money / stress ..... it is when you become a different person........living in the same face and body............ many people do not see it ............ many assume you want and like the same things like you are stuck in time....... when your person cannot or WILL not accept the change and keep wanting to get to know you................ throughout all the changes in your life .... you cannot see a path forward and feel freer to be the NOW you.... among new people because she may feel you are her past.
waiting and hoping some day is hoping she wants to relive the past......