Pregnant and husband wants divorce
Long story short my husband and I were trying to conceive for 4 years and I went to the doc, was put on medication and got pregnant within 2 months.. I’m currently 5 months pregnant and about a month ago my husband and I get into an argument cause he was being mean to me and he decided right then and there he wanted a divorce, took off his ring, hasn’t put it on since and honestly has been acting like everything is okay since he’s declared he wants a divorce. He has been extremely disrespectful to me, calling me a b and a *** and told me I’m not allowed to call him “babe” anymore, said the man he used to be is long gone. I cry just about every day, and when we’ve dug deeper into why he wants a divorce he just says I haven’t been happy for some time… and he’s even said he thought about unaliving himself and I asked him why he would even make me go thru getting pregnant or even trying to get pregnant and his answer was “I wanted a baby” or “I thought things would get better” he also went to mexico to visit family and came back saying how the women there do anything for their men and calling me lazy and I noticed he’s added a ton of women from the town he visited on *** and is liking their pictures …no our marriage hasn’t been perfect and we’ve had our issues and I have caught him previously talking inappropriately to women online and even to his ex wife who he has kids with and when confronted about that (this was about 6 months ago just before getting pregnant) he begged me not to leave him. This whole situation is *** up and I keep telling him I wish he would’ve just communicated how he felt but he said I should’ve known and he didn’t have to say anything.. also just before he declared he wanted a divorce he told me I could quit my job so I did, now I feel stuck and I feel so unhappy and alone in this pregnancy. Mind you he has 2 kids before our marriage and I’ve been there for them like a step mom should for 5 years and he said “you don’t love them you’re just used to them” I don’t understand how someone can go from loving someone one week and the next he’s treating me like garbage any advice is welcomed
@sensitiveGlobe4728
That is a lot at once...... lots of stress ......
I think he was being honest with you but he should have been early on before the pregnancy....
If he said he was not happy for awhile/ he thought a baby would fix things far too many people IMO think this and is seldom does often just adds to the problems .......
even encouraging you to quit a job he may have thought you would be waiting on him more if not working etc....
people when they reach that point of finally asking for divorce / breakup often people say things they do not really mean.......afraid another argument will end up with just short term compromise and feel stuck
they seem to say the worst things possible ............. possibly a way to burn the bridge that could bring them back to the relationship...... he may be unsure of what he wants but is following through as this is the move he chose to make now. I am so sorry he did not express his feelings and stopped this from progressing into the situation you now face.
@sensitiveGlobe4728
hope you have a safe delivery and a happy newborn. Now with that being said let the marriage end! He clearly told you how he feels what’s with people not loving themselves more then the person causing you sadness and pain! NO LOVING husband would ever treat a woman he actually loves like that! He no longer loves you and he’s telling you that! Only people who don’t love themselves or don’t have anything going for themselves outside the marriage would stay with a cold hearted emotionally abusing partner! Do not worry about him anymore! Love yourself and your unborn child more! I wish you the very best
Thank you and you’re so right my sister even told me someone who loves you would never treat their pregnant wife like that and she even said that women don’t forget how they’re treated while pregnant