Should I move on
I have been seperated for the past 2 months from my wife of 4 years over time we have had small issues that turned to big ones I didn't handle confrontation well and would sometimes get angry never abusive she felt I didn't do enough at home even though I was always working while she stayed home with our two young children at the current moment we hardly speak to each other other than about our children and she seems more focused on getting her self a part time job and trying to live on her own I do anything I can to help support financially or just trying to be there for her but she just rejects it all she has not said she totally wants a divorce she just doesn't know right now and now I am debating should I keep on trying? Or just move on?
@Tigersjaw1663
Work it out or end it now.
Communicate with your wife, present the issues and solve them together. You can not have a healthy and happy relationship without open communication. The longer you avoid it, the worse it will become. If you two are still willing to try in this relationship, then there is still hope in solving these problems together. No matter how difficult it may seem to bring up a topic, the best thing you can do is to confront it.
Best~
@SenpaiXD
And the worst thing you can do is avoid the conversation with her or allow the conversation to include topics which do not help or benefit the situation overall. If you both are still unable to learn how to communicate together to resolve your marriage difficulties - a third party may help the both of you bridge that gap. The marriage isn't over until it's over - you're still married although apart. I'd guess that this time is probably better than ever to put together a reasonable track for the both of you to get onto in order to bring things back together.
The way that you both deal with your issues and how you handle your anger are going to be large ticket items in this situation. Start with the heavier items first then work your way down. Make a list of the problems you both face TOGETHER. You can each make a list and work from it but make one master list that you both can agree on. Without an idea as to what issues you both face, how are you to know where to start?
Understand that not everything is going to be 100%, you both will not be able to fix every single issue. In fact, you both may come to the conclusion that this situation is just not workable. This is all done through talking to one another and hashing this out.
Both of you could do wonders by learning the art of compromise.
Good luck!
@SenpaiXD what if she won't communicate?
@Tigersjaw1663
Then you end it.
There is no point in crying over spilled milk. A healthy and happy relationship requires communication. A conversation is a two-way street. When there is no communication, there is absolutely no chance for it to ever become better. So the sooner you end it, the faster you can start to focus on yourself.
Best~
It's not over til it's over. If you still love her, fight for the relationship. The comments about you needing to communicate are easier said than done. People communicate in different ways, and it's hard enough when everything is going right, but when you guys are already out of synch, it can be hard to see the other person's side and to get the other person to understand your side . Sometimes it can help to have an unbiased 3rd party step in. If you can find a good counselor/therapist/mutual friend, it may be worth the $$. At least then you can say you tried. Ultimately when both partners feel heard then you can work towards a plan
