Single for 2 years...
My last ‘relationship was a toxic one. After that situation, I tried online dating which made me spiral worse. I gave that up for good and I thought I meet a guy out one night but also faded away. The next was at a show where he asked for my number but turns out it was another fade away after being blamed for everything that went wrong... I blocked all of these people.
I want to believe that I will have a healthy relationship where the guy is conscious and aware, has the ability to be open with others and be vulnerable with himself and wants to put the time in energy.. even after the whole honeymoon phase.
Anyone have advice on trusting oneself and others after one loss after another?
@Truthseeker28
Hello <3, Welcome to Relationship Support Space. Thank you for reaching out and sharing your thoughts with us. But, we apologize for the delay in responding to you.
As I see we are late in supporting you, can you please help us with the current status of the concerns you have and if you still would like to discuss and figure things out together with us?
We would be glad to listen and support you, if we could be of some help. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Sending virtual hugs!
@Truthseeker28
Hi there, lovely. Oof, this is certainly a tough situation.
It's pretty powerful that after all the heartache that you've gone through, you are choosing to separate yourself from people who are hurting you and not wanting to work on being in a positive relationship with you.
Something that can be helpful to think about is that you clearly value yourself enough to wait to be in a relationship with a high quality person. With that in mind, for now, this means that *You* are the quality person who you are in a relationship with.
Could you tell me some things that you might be doing these days that make you really happy? Do you go to concerts often? Do you enjoy taking personality tests, that somtimes shed a little more light into who we are as a person, and where our likes and possible compatibilities lie? (A couple of my favorites are the 5 Love Languages quiz for single people & the Myers-Briggs / MBTI indepth personality test).
I suggested this as an option because by knowing yourself fully more, you may have a better understanding of where you might feel comfortable with going adventuring in your life. Who knows? You might discover that you like aerial flow arts, and fall in love with a trapeze artist! *_*
Regardless of what you choose to do, please always keep in mind that you are loved, valued, and a perfect creation as is. Taking chances on your Self is the best way to get the bright, shining light that you beam out into the world. The other people who didn't treat you well sadly don't know what they're missing out on. The good news is, you do! :) And there are people out there who truly cannot WAIT to meet you <3
Much love to you!