This is my second time asking for help in forum. Feeling insecure about taking him back

So i tried writing but people never answered and i think it might be because the story was too long, hence why im putting a shorter version here now.

In aug 2022 a guy started seeing me through some arranged marriage meeting (not forced just arranged) we clicked and kept talking. He invited me out too and was over the moon that i accepted continuing with him after our meeting. The problems started because he asked if he can come for preengagement (we have a tradition with a little visit/party when a couple has to become official where he visits with close relatives and puts a ring on my finger/necklace as proof that we are taken/dating/promised to each other.) I accepted. But he was unsure if i really wanted and kept asking every week despite me assuring him each time. When he finally told his mother after 7 weeks of asking and they planned the visit to be in december my grandmother died on 22/september 2022.

So we also have a tradition close relatives of a dead person mourn and wear black and dont party for 1 year after the death. Meaning my mother and they instantly postphoned the visit from december 2022 to april 2023.

So in february 2023 his parents called to plan which exact day to come during a holiday time in february and my mother said they can come any day but she wants a quiet visit with no dancing, partying or music since my grandmother is dead. His fathe got angry saying 3 times to her if she doesnt want the party he will postphone because he wants a party as it is his only son.

My mother got angry feeling he was threatening and insisted on no partying telling him "do as you please" and he cancelled and didnt even mention a new date this time.

I became anxious and knew it was going bad. I was sad that his father was starting to make choices about MY marriage already and not including me. I waited hoping the son at least would respect me enough to contact me and ask my opinion or at least inform me of the changes.

He usually texts me every day and on very busy weeks which is seldom at least every 5 days. This fight happened between our parents the 18th february. Me and him had before that planned to meet at a restaurant the 28 feb. However afte their fight he suddenly stopped texting me. I waited to see when he would care and he didnt. The the 27 came and he didnt even text to ask about what clock to meet up the next day despite us having taken a leave from work to meet up. I ended up texting him and he asked "we can meet but do you want to?" I felt he was backing out and told him i dont understand since we have already planned and he said we can meet 11 o clock. The next day he sent me a text asking if its ok to cancel since his boss flew in from abroad and wants to meet up. I felt it was a lie because 1. He had taken the day off from work 2. We were texting till 8 o clock evening the night before and there was not said a word about any boss. I said its ok to cancell but was so angry that i demanded a call the next day and told him that 2. It is NEVER ok to ditch people 3 hours before a supposed meeting and 2. It is not ok that our parents are cancelling and postphoning events in our lives and definitely not ok that he didnt even inform me for 2 weeks now. 3. I want us to call and meet more and since he ditched my effort this time its on him to pla the next meeting.

He said ok to all but next week texted if we can call about stopping all this between us cause he doesnt feel we are getting anywhere. We called and he said every excuse he could think of about why we should stop it but we choose to continue after i spoke some sense into him. Then 1 week later he Sent me this message finally breaking up with me on 18/march/2023 :

"Hi,I dont think the two of us should spend more time texting or trying to make it work. we have now tried for I don't know how long but without success, and the distance means that we can't just meet either, so I think that the two of us just should stop contacting each other and I hope you find the right person, but I won't stand in your way and wish you all the best in life" Before when he often asked if i want to marry i told him " if i find the right person" so this was like a slap to my faceI was SO sad. I was really upset because I didn't feel I had done anything wrong. I didn't feel he had given it a chance either. He had just since that visit was cancelled by his parents started behaving completely differently with me. I ended up replying "Hi. We might as well be honest that it wasnt working out lately. I don't think the distance was the problem because you knew where I lived before it started. The problem was probably more your behavior and personality here at the end, but good luck to you too."

He saw my message at 1am and never responded. Thats it. I'm kind of in shock at how he went from telling me things like "You're really pretty, A one of a kind, I thought you were going to reject me because you didn't seem very impressed," to breaking up.

I just sat in my room mostly crying silently and isolating myself.

After leaving me the 18/mach with all those excuses he even texted me the 22/june saying "hi 😁" i answered "hi" he answered "have you been well?" And then added " i just wanted to hear if you would be interested in us getting together again or if it is totally out of the question?" I answered " what changed? Why do you want it now again?" And he answered " i spoke to my mum yesterday and understood that she and your distant relative want us to give it a chance more. So i thought about it and thought yes we could as long as its on our terms and our families arent with us in each step but that we make all the decisions about what will happen ourselves. "

Honestly i was too angry that he told me on one hand that we will make all choice yet on the other hand it seems that his mother talked him into contacting me? I didnt answer him but did tell my mum that he had contacted me a week later just to see her reaction. She told me " if you accept him they will treat you as if you are dying for their son. Also i didnt tell you because i didnt want to hurt you but i heard that after you broke up his mothers excuse around people was that you were too cold/dry around him and that there is even a european girl at his work who is totally into him but he didnt acknowledge her because you were together. So they were disrespecting you. " i felt even more hurt because i really love him.

What should i do? I am a mess.