Was it love or a game?

@neonPineapple8403

Hey there. hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

He said he loved me and wanted us to get married and that he was ready for it. He looked at me with soft eyes and treated me like a princess but as soon as we had a serious talk, he was become anotger person. (This is a sign he felt the closeness, which made him feel scared and uncomfortable. He definetly displayed a lot of sabotaging behaviors on order to keep you at a distance) He would become defensive and untrusting and the argument would go no where until i end up getting hurt. (He doesn't know how to communicate effectively, and has a lot of trust issues) He would also gave me a lot of silent treatments. (He is being manipulative, abusive and controlling here. This is his way of manipulating you into doing what he wants by withdrawing love, affection and attention from you. I wouldn't go after him, but if he comes back you will need to set strong boundaries on him) Although he said he wanted to get married and we were trying to arrange for this, he didnt take any actions and wasnt exciting when things started movinh forward slowly. (He is being inconsistent here, his words doesn't match his actions. You should want someone who is exicted to marry you, this one isn't showing a sign he wants to do this)

He kept becoming more and more dfensive, would question my every action, introduced my flaws in every argument, (He is projecting here and blaming you for everything without taking responsability for his own actions. It's impossible to have a healthy marriage with a person like him, he will definetly not be a good father or husband) got frustrated with my family, etc.

Now he's giving me the silent treatment, (He is expecting you to reach out so he can punish you and hurt you. He is being emotionally abusive with this behavior, and the worst part is that this will affect your self esteem and the way you think about the situation) he used to reach out to me every day for the last couple of months but after our last argument which i couldnt take and just quitely got up and left. (You did good by leaving, he is showing childish and abusive behavior) He stopped contacting me, he hasnt talked in more than a week which hasnt been the case ever since we started movibg things forward.

Was it all a lie? Was he ever serious? What happened to the man who said he eternally loved me and would do anythinh for me? He was the sweetest person ever until we started talking serious. (He can't handle closeness and commitment so he will sabotage the relationship. The person he is right now is the real him, back then it was the honeymoon phase so he put his best foot forward. I feel like he is not the right person for you, and all he is doing is emotionally abusing you, controlling you, punishing you and manipulating you into doing what he wants. I think he is highly insecure, and only cares about how he feels without paying attention to how you feel)

They say if a man truly loves you, they would do anything to keep you or get you back. (I feel like this could only work with men who are secure or who have work on their issues. This guy has way too many issues , and the only thing he is capable of is hurting you) They would make up after a fight, etc. Does he no longer love me? (He only loves himself) I feel like everything was a lie?? (The person he is right now is the real him, he is showing you his real identity)