What is wrong with me
My boyfriend and I broke up and I am heartbroken but I dont think he is. I'm trying to move forward be then there are moments where it literally consumes me. So in one of those moments I went on a text app and sent him.messages as someone else . What is wrong with me? I regretted it almost instantly. I'm pretty sure he knows it was me and told his friends and now I'm humiliated. I am sitting here now like why would I even think that was a good or okay idea that was so stupid.... what is wrong with me? How do I come back from this humiliation?
@imjustme1987
We do crazy things sometimes during a break-up, I've done ridiculous stuff during a break up too. I'd suggest going no contact, blocking him on social media etc., that's the best and easiest way to speed up the process of moving on. Unfortunately, you can't change the past so all you can do is accept what you've done, learn from it and move forward maturely.
@imjustme1987 Breakups can be hard but it will be okay. The message you sent was no big deal but it may be best for you to just have no contact with him. Try to find other positive things to do that will occupy your time. This will help you not worry about him and let you move on with your life.
@imjustme1987 It sounds like he means a lot to you and you feel deeply attached to him so you just wanted to get his attention in whatever way possible and impulsively jumped to messaging him as someone else. Everyone makes mistakes and although this feels humiliating, what matters is that you understand why its wrong and think about how to deal with your pain in better ways in the future.
He might come back, might not, but I sincerely believe that you deserve love and that the best you can do is try to forgive yourself and process your feelings. It hurts, breakups are incredibly painful but you will be happy again and your life isn't over. You made a mistake, its okay, other people can still love you in the future and if you give him space then there's even a chance he might forgive you... Whatever happens, I wish you the best and you'll be okay.
what can you do in order to cope in a healthier way? Is there anything that could help you take your mind off him? Maybe you could journal about him?
Sending love and if you need anyone to talk to, feel free to reach out.