When to contact her again?
She broke up more than 2 weeks ago and asked me not to contact her as she needed her space. I've been struggling a lot not being able to talk to her and days kinda feel like weeks. I was wondering how long I should wait to try and contact her again?
I really want to leave her space and avoid breaking the no contact she asked for, but at the same time I really wish she would talk to me, I'm worried about her well-being and would just want to know how she is doing.
I was thinking about trying to send her a message Friday of next week if she hasn't written me by then (which would make it 24 days without contact). I would just apologise for reaching out but also ask how she is doing. Would it be bad?
@daaXa
It is about time to contact her, rwo weeks is a max and do not wait for her to make the first step😉, tell her you missed her like crazy and that you love her...😶
@GreyMirror Thank you, I'm not really sure I should do it now though, she made it clear she needed her space and even though it really pains me to say it: I think I should still wait a bit, I don't want to be disrespectful to her.
I don't think telling her that I love her will help, I don't want to push her away. I know this will take time to rebuild if it has to be, and I just want us to talk like we used to first, to show her that I've made a lot of changes in my life and really want to open up to her about my issues.
I'm mainly afraid that trying to rush things and texting her barely a month after she stopped things will push her away even more and make me look like I don't respect her and the space she asked for. I really don't want to do that and hurt her, I just want us to get back in touch
@daaXa
They just say that😉, just contact her, you have nothing to lose😉, two weeks is already the max limit😶. Do it and if it is true love you will get an answer...
@daaXa I wouldn't contact her yet, nor would I go straight in there telling you you love and miss her. You need to test the water otherwise you're going to end up back at square one again feeling hurt and rejected. I would definitely wait another week, but keep it casual and don't go straight in with showing her how much you've changed. This should show naturally and not have to be pointed out to her. Good luck x
@Kathx Thank you, yes it's really what I had in mind, I just want to at least be in touch and talk about anything, I don't want to put pressure on her or hurt her, that's why I'm mainly afraid of reaching out before she does.
@daaXa I know how you feel. I'm currently going through a breakup that happened on Sunday and I am day 4 of not contacting him. Our stories a little complicated but it's no easier than what you're experiencing. I tried no contact before and lasted 6 days so I am determined to improve in that this time. I know we both need the space, but still taking a lot of willpower!
@Kathx
Hey! I would reach out. If you feel an itch to say anything at all, do it! It's coming from a loving place and if they have a problem with that or if that pushes them farther away then they weren't meant for you in the first place. You seem like a very respectful and compassionate person and personally I know that if I ask for space I wouldnt mind that person reaching out just to ask how I am. It's a very loving thing to do.
I sent her a message yesterday early afternoon. She didn't reply all day, and later in the evening I noticed she blocked me. I'm devastated. I'm really confused, I didn't think she would completely ignore and block me, I hoped she would at least just send me an answer, even if it was to say she wasn't ready to talk.
I thought I would be able to handle this but I was wrong. Seeing she blocked me was way too painful for me, I just wanted to check on her.
I thought I was going a bit better, that maybe she would too and we could discuss, apparently she wasn't. I ruined it, and the pain is back, it's too much
