How did you know you

@LillyAnnHelps

I think that there is no one "the one" but there is a right person for everyone within every relationship style. You can have a "one" for running around every night being crazy and sleeping under the stars and a "one" somewhere else for buying a house and dog with. It is all very fluid and I always want to start off with that. Also, sometimes you think you have found your "one" for something and later find someone who feels way more like your "one" for that, and that's great and does not take away from the beauty or validity of the previous relationship as your "one" for things will be different over time.

How (in my opinion) you can tell if today the person you are with is the "one" for the life you presently want to live:

- You feel safe

- You feel valued

- You are excited by them

- They are excited by you

- You feel a sense of clarity

- You feel included in their life

- You feel 100% safe saying no

- You are both individually functional

- Your happiness makes them happy

- Making them happy makes you happy

- They support you in the things that you do

- You feel loved, even when things are rough

- You love them, even when things are rough

- You feel you could trust them in a moment of crisis

- You never have to remind yourself why you love them

- When/if there are issues you both work to resolve them

- They encourage you to live your life independently from them

- You are able to communicate clearly about your wants and needs

- Fights/disagreements are always ended with a sense of safety and love

- You want to take care of them, but do not feel responsible for their well being

- They want to take care of you, but do not feel responsible for your well being

- Your embarrassing moments are less embarrassing with them than with others

- They joy that they bring you lasts much longer than the duration of your interactions

- Their embarrassing moments mean nothing to you and you just want them to feel good again

- There is some sense of this relationship being somehow greater or different than others in an inexplicable, almost spiritual way

For me i just knew that he was good for me since i just wanted a nice guy and we have things in common with one another

When you're both willing to work out any problems or conflicts and don't feel like you have to sacrifice your entire sense of self to do so.

@LillyAnnHelps For me it was like in the movies. I saw her and went that is my soul mate right there. She was wearing an alice in wonderland cosplay

you just know it :)