😠 Tips on how to calm down following a disagreement or argument 😡

@RainbowRosie

Great tips. 💛 Arguments can indeed feel a lot overwhelming so it can help to distance to process your emotions and practice self-care.

I think I’d tell the person too that me taking some time doesn’t mean I’m avoiding them or stonewalling them, it just means I process things better alone and I wouldn’t want to say things in the heat off the moment and regret later, because it’s very human of us to unwillingly even “lash-out” when we face an emotionally triggering situation. 

Later to of course decide upon a time and set up for a possible face to face communication about what really happened, letting both people share how they feel and what their thoughts currently look like, how to address the situation and reach a solution or a common point and move on for the better.

@RainbowRosie Heyy:D Thank you for this insightful post!

I would like to add to the 3rd point, the reflecting part. Recently me and my partner reflected on times when we had some arguements relatively often. As we talked about it, we agreed that the reason we stayed together was 1) because we could be completely honest with each other about how we are feeling, what is on our minds, what are the thoughts passing as simply thoughts, taking them seriously but not too seriously if that makes sense. I could compare it to what they advise in meditating, seeing the thought as a cloud, simply being and floating away. Accepting it and loving it for what it is.  And 2) that at the end of the day we could hold on to the thought that "this person is my partner, not my enemy". And that felt like such a reaitycheck. To recognize we don't have to fight, that I don't have to protect myself from this person, because they are my love, they are the ones I trust and cry to at the end of a long day. The ones who see me vulnerable, and that the heat of the moment (as also mentioned in Sun's comment:)) doesn't change that. 

Of course both these requite genuine love and trust in eachother, as well as open communication. This is my take, thank you again!:)

@RainbowRosie

thank you for the reminder of how to actively calm yourself down from an argument or a disagreement with someone. I will make sure that I use some of these skills in my everyday life.